Saturday nights are for lovers - aka vagina twitter with your friendly feminist, @Downeyangel & @urfeministboss
What’s #vaginatwitter? Imagine a hot fudge vodka sundae only it’s an inclusive twitter thread for owners and appreciators of our beautiful yet stigmatized anatomy.
Why do this? Because society treats vaginas, vulvas, and the clitoris as taboo. Children are taught substitute terms, and society uses vaginal pseudonyms with a range of moral connotation. The effect is that talking about vaginas, and having one, feels embarrassing or shameful.
That’s not ok. Vaginas are amazing and essential to own and/or love. This is a weekly opportunity for people of all genders to ask questions, share stories and express your vaginappreciation 💋
Dont want to talk vaginas? Other threads exist.
So, what’s on your mind about the V?
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Women: imagine that for 24 hours there were no men in the world.
No men were harmed in the creation of this hypothetical. They will return. They are safe and happy wherever they are during this brief, fictional time period.
What would change for you? What would you do that day?
If this is the part where you start drafting some TERF bullshit, don’t — and then fuck off.
Trans women are women. If you read this exercise as opportunity to be an unoriginal asshole you were never here to support any of us. Please rethink that. Elsewhere.
It’s my fifth year posing this question on Christmas Eve, and it’s a gift. A moment for women to imagine what they would do if they felt safer.
As of this posting, there are nearly 20,000 original replies:
All women living in a patriarchy carry internalized misogyny. It’s as fundamental to the social structure as communication itself, because it maps the way we interpret our community position and role, which in turn impacts how we interact with and evaluate the other people in it.
Somehow, from somewhere, every woman knows that cruelty toward other women (especially any who violate the rules of misogyny) is likely to increase your value to men. It’s a gross truth but it is reality. We know it as well as we know that refusing to play along can go badly too.
It is exceptionally difficult to retool within ourselves the thousands of ways we’ve been socialized to distrust, malign, and compete with each other, and when you characterize broad swaths of women as a behavioral monolith, you assign them intentionality but you offer no depth.
Women, imagine that for 24 hours, there were no men in the world.
No men are being harmed in the creation of this hypothetical. They will all return. They are safe and happy wherever they are during this hypothetical time period.
What would change? What would you do that day?
Men are not the only reason some women feel unsafe. Racism, classism, homophobia, transphobia, and religious persecution are all ways that society, including other women, can harm both women and men.
The difference is, women do not make men unsafe simply because they are men.
For four years now I’ve asked this question on Christmas Eve. It’s a gift, to give women a moment to imagine what they would do if they felt safer. Collectively there are more than 14,000 original replies.
Women, who just want to take a walk. Men, berating them for saying so.
Ok so I was scrolling through, trying to decide what sort of tweets I make that would be worth paying for, but that I don’t want assholes to be shielded from, and I realized that basically just leaves dunks so we’ll stick with the old model.
Me: EXCLUSIVE PICS FOR SUPER FOLLOWERS ONLY
Super follower: what the fuck these are pictures of kittens
Me: their names are Smokey and Bandit they are three months old
I want to talk about how misogyny is often framed as edgy jokes. I want to talk about how this guy is comparing battered women to dogs in an animal shelter and mocking how traumatized and easy to manipulate they are as a result. I want to talk about why men think this is funny.
I want to talk about how the internet is foaming at the mouth for this kind of content. How men dive into the replies to participate like starving sharks diving onto a steak.
I want to talk about how tossing out lazy, bottom of the barrel, vitriolic misogyny online is always done in the key of “king willing to say what we’re all thinking,” and that it’s a common part of the discourse among young men, and especially among progressive or leftist men.