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They call you a feminist killjoy because misogyny is fun for them.
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Dec 24, 2022 8 tweets 2 min read
Women: imagine that for 24 hours there were no men in the world.

No men were harmed in the creation of this hypothetical. They will return. They are safe and happy wherever they are during this brief, fictional time period.

What would change for you? What would you do that day? If this is the part where you start drafting some TERF bullshit, don’t — and then fuck off.

Trans women are women. If you read this exercise as opportunity to be an unoriginal asshole you were never here to support any of us. Please rethink that. Elsewhere.
Nov 23, 2022 5 tweets 1 min read
If 5% of the men in the world were anti-misogyny

And each of them agreed to convince one more man, each year

Assume they fail almost half of the time

More than half of all men would be anti-misogyny

In 15 years. There’s nothing controversial about suggesting that a small percentage of men could make material progress toward ending misogyny.

If you’re going to be an absolute pinecone in replies, at least cut the shit and admit you’re just mad that this fucks with your bad apples alibi.
Jul 30, 2022 6 tweets 2 min read
All women living in a patriarchy carry internalized misogyny. It’s as fundamental to the social structure as communication itself, because it maps the way we interpret our community position and role, which in turn impacts how we interact with and evaluate the other people in it. Somehow, from somewhere, every woman knows that cruelty toward other women (especially any who violate the rules of misogyny) is likely to increase your value to men. It’s a gross truth but it is reality. We know it as well as we know that refusing to play along can go badly too.
Dec 24, 2021 6 tweets 2 min read
Women, imagine that for 24 hours, there were no men in the world.

No men are being harmed in the creation of this hypothetical. They will all return. They are safe and happy wherever they are during this hypothetical time period.

What would change? What would you do that day? Men are not the only reason some women feel unsafe. Racism, classism, homophobia, transphobia, and religious persecution are all ways that society, including other women, can harm both women and men.

The difference is, women do not make men unsafe simply because they are men.
Nov 27, 2021 6 tweets 2 min read
What is a ...super... follower ? Ok so I was scrolling through, trying to decide what sort of tweets I make that would be worth paying for, but that I don’t want assholes to be shielded from, and I realized that basically just leaves dunks so we’ll stick with the old model.
Nov 6, 2021 12 tweets 8 min read
I want to talk about how misogyny is often framed as edgy jokes. I want to talk about how this guy is comparing battered women to dogs in an animal shelter and mocking how traumatized and easy to manipulate they are as a result. I want to talk about why men think this is funny. I want to talk about how the internet is foaming at the mouth for this kind of content. How men dive into the replies to participate like starving sharks diving onto a steak.
Oct 30, 2021 5 tweets 1 min read
Women learn early and often that being cruel, dismissive, or indifferent toward other women will earn you marginally less mistreatment from men. This is true regardless of whether a culture actively discourages networks of women, and even when it actively encourages them. Sometimes culture isolates women by assigning value exclusively based on proximity to men. Sometimes it isolates us by limiting the nature of our proximity to men to sex/caretaking, while being mostly indifferent about women’s networks because they have no real access to power.
Sep 12, 2021 5 tweets 1 min read
Do you actually get along better with guys or are you just not sure how to be friends with women because you’ve only been taught how to appeal to men? Whew this is a rough one y’all.
Jul 7, 2021 4 tweets 1 min read
Data has repeatedly shown that the 2002 Serial Offender Theory contains a misrepresentative sample and an incorrect conclusion. 2015 research showed 13.2% of men self report at least one rape, and may likely repeat, but usually only during a 1-4 year period in their lifetimes. Swartout, Koss, White, Thompson, Abbey, and Bellis (2015)
Jul 1, 2021 7 tweets 2 min read
Tired of “wow,” “shut up,” and “lol” comprising 99% of men’s responses whenever I quote tweet another man telling me I’m worthless piece of shit when 99% of men call themselves good guys. Tired of seeing men catcall on the street while other men look away because they’re not like that - they’re the good guys.
Jun 12, 2021 6 tweets 1 min read
Mayochup and Kranch sound like two rookie detectives partnered on the case of lifetime where everything is at stake and hijinks ensue. Mayochup definitely has “chup” on the back of his men’s softball league tshirt.
May 25, 2021 9 tweets 2 min read
Attributing value to your own beauty based on your personal value system is what we typically call vanity (though the concept is itself intended to gatekeep the assignment of value); understanding that men assign value to women based on beauty is just being a woman in patriarchy. ...and before anyone accurately points out that women often assign value and police one another based on patriarchal standards of beauty, note that, as I have said before, reading the meter is not the same as controlling the measurement.
May 18, 2021 5 tweets 2 min read
Virtually every woman I know has been harassed or assaulted by a man. Just because no one does anything about it and we go on with our lives doesn’t mean its rare, or that our fear is unjustified, it means some of us are “vitriolic” and some of us say nothing as a way to survive. "Not all men are like this" - do you think we don't know that? Our lives are spent navigating which of you is might harm us.

Why doesn't that bother you? It should, but it doesn't, because it might mean prioritizing anything over what is easiest and most comfortable for you.
May 11, 2021 4 tweets 1 min read
Apr 17, 2021 4 tweets 1 min read
Good question. No true Scotsman refers to any attempt to define a generalization by excluding a counterexample. Feminism is a social and political movement for gender equity - if you advocate for ideas that are antithetical to that goal, you are, definitionally, not a feminist. The rub, of course, is understanding why anti-trans rhetoric is antithetical to gender equity. There are lots of reasons, but perhaps most uncomplicated among them is that enforcing a gender binary is literally the foundational tool of patriarchy. Separate but equal doesn’t work.
Mar 20, 2021 12 tweets 2 min read
Watching The Staircase. There’s so many things just casually thrown out there that make you go wait what So I’m only on episode 2 and it’s possible that this guy is totally guilty but this lady at the prosecutors office is homophobic as fuckkkkkkk
Mar 18, 2021 12 tweets 3 min read
I think men have very, very few hardships because they are men that are not caused, celebrated, defended, and/or perpetuated by other men, because they are men. More men are murdered! Yes. By other men (and not usually for being men)

Men do more dangerous jobs! Yes, they also systematically exclude women from those roles, and the companies, (owned by men) lobby against workplace safety regs because money and not pussies or whatever
Mar 9, 2021 4 tweets 1 min read
“If I don’t abuse women, how can you say I benefit from abuse perpetrated by men who do?”

Because women have learned to expect male abuse, and many will accept less from you, gratefully even, when you don’t harm them.

Ask me how many times I’ve heard, “at least he’s not perv.” This is the root of your frustration with not receiving credit for being “one of the good guys.”

You are accustomed to being rewarded for a lack of harm.

“Thanks for accepting my declination”

“Thanks for not talking over me.”

“Thanks for caring whether I want to have sex.”
Feb 2, 2021 4 tweets 1 min read
A lot of men get angry in conversations about the prevalence of and accountability for sexual assault, misogyny, and the objectification and oppression of women, and it always looks alot like white people getting mad in conversations about racism. We want to create distance between ourselves and things we know are wrong. We become uncomfortable when that distance is questioned because we know our hands aren’t clean. We know there are times we could have done more, or better, and we dont want to admit we benefitted from it.
Jan 19, 2021 5 tweets 1 min read
Furthermore: Fight Song by Rachel Platton always gets me AMPED TF UP. Will people screengrab this to make fun of me and shit on my basic bitch tweets? V likely, yes. But if doing Phil Collins style air drums as it builds up to the final chorus is wrong, I don’t want to be right. Seriously listen to that song on full blast and try to tell me you don’t want to chase your dreams after. You can’t. Because it’s impossible.
Dec 24, 2020 6 tweets 2 min read
A few years ago, on Xmas Eve, I tweeted a simple thought experiment. I never imagined the volume or intensity of response it would generate, but it was clear that it had illuminated a discussion worth having. Revisiting it each Dec 24th has become something of a tradition. [1] Having done this a few times now, I'd like to include some useful context:

1. A thought experiment is a hypothetical scenario that enables theoretical examination of the consequences or result of a particular variable - it's not a call to action. So please, settle down sirs. [2]