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Visakan Veerasamy

@visakanv

Jan 23

https://twitter.com/societyqueen999/status/1882024595789959223

for starters I don’t think you’re selfish for not having children

and kids actually are a joy to have

but if you need a different reason, I really liked what some other couple once said, about wanting to have “a maximum human experience”. I’ll elaborate how I interpreted that

https://twitter.com/societyqueen999/status/1882024595789959223

but first again I’ll reiterate that you *don’t* have to have kids. i don’t think it’s something that should be done from a sense of weary obligation. I believe it’s possible to have a meaningful, beautiful life without kids and you should do what feels right for you in your heart

https://twitter.com/visakanv/status/1826519381037466002

ok so like the first wild thing to me about having kids is that you get to see your own childhood and your own parents from a sort of “exploded perspective” view. it’s like seeing the matrix, the current timeline directly loops over the past and it’s narratively ultra satisfying

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Visakan Veerasamy

@visakanv

Jan 10

nobody is coming to do an honest audit of your time and energy for you

only you can face the truth of how you are living your life, and whether it’s the life you know in your heart you are actually capable of living

you dont have to do it alone, but nobody else can do it for you

food analogy works decent here

you gotta eat. you dont have to eat alone. but nobody can eat for you

in early childhood we need to be fed

there’s a lot to learn about things like cooking and food prep etc

but nobody can eat for you

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Visakan Veerasamy

@visakanv

Jan 3

when I was young I figured out a bunch of solutions to a bunch of problems and I thought it would make people love me lol but it actually alienated me from them, and it’s turns out it’s roughly because people identify with their problems

(I then went on to solve that alienation problem for myself by making a bunch of new friends, which involved dis-identifying as alienated)

there’s some subtlety here that’s worth getting into

disidentifying is not about denying the truth of something or pretending that it doesn’t exist or that it doesn’t hurt etc

it’s simply removing the pedestal from underneath it, demoting it from its main character status

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Visakan Veerasamy

@visakanv

Dec 21, 2024

Obama is still the only POTUS who was born after 1946. He was the only one born after the partition of India. Gandhi's assassination. the Berlin Blockade. the coinage of the term "Big Bang". Mao's proclamation founding the PRC. the signing of NATO. the Korean War.

only POTUS born after the coronation of Elizabeth II in 1952, after Everest was summited for the first time in '53, after the Fellowship of the Ring was published in '54, after the first Disneyland opened in '55, after Elvis dropped Heartbreak Hotel in 56, Sputnik launched '57

Barbie debuted 1959
Pantyhose also debuted 1959, big year for a particular kind of pervert
Muhammad Ali wins the gold at boxing in the 1960 olympics when Biden is ~18 years old
then JFK and Nixon have the first televised presidential debate also in 1960

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Visakan Veerasamy

@visakanv

Nov 27, 2024

at almost every threshold there are a bunch of people who set up a basecamp where they discuss how to cross the threshold. some of those people do go on to cross the threshold, but those people tend to then become incomprehensible to most of those who are still in basecamp

one might say “not all thresholds”, but in the model I’m presenting here I’d argue that thresholds that are easily crossed are not real thresholds. it is useful to demarcate the thresholds at precisely the boundaries people fail to cross

often the reason for this is that the people before the threshold are operating with a set of beliefs/assumptions that are incompatible with life beyond the threshold. My instinct is to say “this maybe doesnt apply to physical things like sprinting” but then, Daniel Chambliss:

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Visakan Veerasamy

@visakanv

Nov 22, 2024

over the years I’ve found there’s a discernable “signature” to the way people are confidently wrong vs the way people are confidently right. it’s hard to pin down to any one element though. it’s discerned more ecologically. confidently wrong has a clunky bluntness to it

the wrong tend to overuse words like “only” and “never” and often get kinda needlessly aggressive. it’s like they’re trying to bully you into accepting their position. the person who knows they’re right can be more chill and is often kinda laughing about it

A complication tho,

is when the person who’s right is also anxious, for whatever reason. This *does* happen often, and idk what the % of each quadrant is altogether. Probably domain-dependent too

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