So, I don't get a lot out of this video that I don't already know. But one thing I do think is important. White men do this mealy-mouthed tone policing bullshit to each other too. It's not just the rest of us. "You have a tone of admishmenr". This is just how they operate.
I wanna be clear on what I'm saying. It's not only white men who do this. But this style of discourse definitely stems from the dominant cultural expectation set by white supremacist patriarchy. This is the bar they set.
Man autocorrect is fucking me up lately. That's supposed to be "admonishment".
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Keep in mind, what you get from the community is that the way to avoid scams is "education". Can someone tell me what education was supposed to help people avoid this Opensea exploit?
So what failed here? Opensea has been around for years. And the educators have been in full force. What was supposed to happen here that didn't happen?
People think I'm being an asshole or "punching down" when I try to talk about this stuff. I'm not. I'm trying to help people be more prepared to navigate the world around them. Even as we try to change it for the better.
I keep asking people. Are we talking about the way it should be or the way it is? Both of those are important. But if you only ever wanna talk about the first thing, then the second thing is gonna fuck you up.
People will not let go of objective “merit” as a baseline assumption for how people get promoted. No matter how many times you tell them that’s not how it works.
I understand why people *think* they want it to work that way. I also know that people don't *actually* want it to work that way. Because when you try to talk to individuals about their own “merit”, that shit gets wild real quick.
Folks only wanna talk about other people’s perceived “merit”. Meritocracy for thee, but not for me.
Once you truly accept that there is no magic, a lot of things get more frustrating. Because you start to see all of the ways that the humans in the system make excuses for not changing it. Almost all of them. Even many of the ones who actually want it to change.
I don't know how to talk about this yet. I'm still searching for the right words, the right framework.
I spend a lot of time trying to convince individual people in the system what they should try to do differently in order to be part of change. But they won't do it.
I know it's hard to do these things. I certainly haven't worked up to doing all of the things I could be doing. But choosing to start trying is the first step. Instead people like to rail against the system while acting like their words and actions are not part of it.
But what Breslow is describing is a very real problem in the tech startup ecosystem. And we have to pay attention. Because this particular mechanism is at the core of whether employees get to participate in the wealth that is generated by this industry.
The real hack for fewer meetings is to lean into them and make sure the reason you were invited actually happens. A lot of meetings are tedious because they're repeats. The last time you met, the thing that needed to happen didn't happen.
Dan's answer is 100% legit. All meetings aren't terrible. *Other* people's meetings are terrible. When you need something from somebody else, a meeting is just you doing your job. We can all do our part by helping other people's meetings be successful.
In a lot of corporate work environments. It's not always obvious *what* we need from each other. People call meetings to try to figure out what they need. It can feel wasteful, but there's actually no good way around it. Figuring out why we're meeting is a superpower.