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Jan 31, 2020 10 tweets 3 min read Read on X
Sometimes forget to be grateful to be a US citizen, but got talking w @aa_fenton about how our parents immigrated to America, and it reminded me to hold on to the inspiration and courage our parents had:

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My great grandfather had the monopoly of eggs in all of China and my grandmother was super rich living in a mansion when the cultural revolution happened and communism took everything away.

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Communist officials took over their home and left my grandmother homeless with three young children (my dad was the #2, and a toddler). She had to leave her baby behind in Shanghai, almost left my dad behind too, because she couldn’t carry him and he was sick w a fever

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Luckily, the day they had to flee, my dads fever broke and my grandmother decided to take him, too, along with her eldest (my aunt). They had nothing but the clothes on their back and had to walk many many miles (with two young kids)! All the way to Hong Kong.

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My grandmother arrived in Hong Kong w no money, no skills, and didn’t speak Cantonese (only mandarin). She went from super rich to very very poor and it was years she was separated from her other daughter.

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My dad grew up being told over and over again:

“Money, power, business, titles, property... all can be taken away from you in an instant. The only thing nobody can ever take away from you is your education.”

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So my mom and dad both crushed at school and earned scholarships to get educated in the US.

They met on the boat.

They both got PhDs, got married @MIT. #nopressure

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And while academia certainly isn’t perfect, they always loved their jobs, never once complained.

After all, having job security to study whatever they want and the psychological safety that nobody could take away their education was their
“American Dream”...

What’s yours?
Should’ve shouted out to @TyeBik and @lynnetye
Not saying I’m a fan of wealth inequality, having too much begets losing it...and my grandmother was the most generous woman I ever met.

The negative delta for life expectations was maximal, and the loss was a rebirthing experience that founded the core values of my family.

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Aug 22, 2021
Starting a new thread that is hopefully (slightly) less depressing and more constructive.

Advice to a younger version of myself:

If anyone makes you feel uncomfortable and you either a) dont feel comfortable telling them or b) told them and they dont care

RUN AWAY

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Your discomfort is a signal that a boundary (even one you have not articulated to yourself) has been crossed.

You owe it to yourself to listen to this discomfort. It is a survival signal.

Seek to work with those with whom interactions feel safe, effortless and clear.

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But sometimes, the water in the pot was just warm, and it gradually gets hotter and hotter until you are burning your feet to jump out.

So if things get bad and you need help, seek it out.

Start with people you trust. Friends, family, etc who can help offer perspective.

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Aug 22, 2021
Thank you for saying this.

Every situation is different but even now as a senior faculty member, I feel a visceral reaction to any tone dismissing or discrediting sexual harassment.

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When I was an undergrad, I was sexually harassed. Complaints about inappropriate behavior made the postdoc I worked for would send me home without pay. Any day that I complained was a day I couldn’t earn wages. 2/n
This went on for about two years. It gradually gradually got worse. If I had lunch with someone else other than my harasser, he would not permit me to return to work.

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Sep 25, 2019
Thread:

Today, @NIMHgov Implicit Bias Awareness education, @HannahValantine gave a fantastic talk about actionable strategies to "Block Bias."

One tip is to use a structured interview.

Vague criteria (such as Overall Attitude/Vibe/Fit, etc.) allow bias to be expressed. 1/n
@NIMHgov @HannahValantine Recommendation letters (and Promotion letters!) often have biased language that can hurt the candidates.

Not sure if you are doing this?

There is a Gender Bias Calculator!!
Paste in your letter text and it will tell you how you're doing.
tomforth.co.uk/genderbias/

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@NIMHgov @HannahValantine Another fact I learned was that the applicant pool for R01s is only ~30% women.

No difference for new R01s in award rate by gender, but there is a difference (in favor of men) for R01 renewals.

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