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I spend my days advising parents on the sometimes confusing behavior of their children. A line I use a lot is "kids do what works."
(Your brain is full! You've got a lot on your mind.)
Kids are excellent scientists. They try lots of things, and they remember what works.
This is how I end up with a parent saying "How have I been snookered by a three year old?!?"
It happens to the best of us.
Trying to reason with young children leads to trouble.
Thomas Phelan PhD calls it the "Talk‐Persuade‐Argue‐Yell‐Hit Syndrome" when it comes to bad behavior.
Kids are wonderful, there's a reason I chose to work with them, but rational is not their strong suit
"It seems to me that trans children, in response to great psychic pain (and adaptively or not) have engaged the rhetoric of gender and, thus, stumbled upon a communication of such potency that their parents and therapists . . .
And I spoke out loud as I read "Yes! We all do this!"
He went on to explain how the adults taking the child literally encourage the child to reiterate . . .
One more quote:
"The most immediate lesson that the trans child has learned, and then enacts, encouraged by these interactions, . .
🛑Stop🛑talking about gender."
☝️This. 100% this. Thank you Dr. Schwartz.
Let your girl cut her hair short if she wants to - it can always grow back.
Any kid should be able to play with whatever toys they like, without approbation.
However!
Lots of gay men and lesbians report feelings of gender dysphoria, which they eventually left behind. It's OK to wait and see what happens.
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