Thread by @JuliaMasonMD1

Advice from an experienced pediatrician about interacting with your ROGD teen:
-remain calm! It's hard when things get scary, but you need to be the adult in the situation.
-don't try to change your teen's mind. When has anyone ever changed someone's mind with facts? Not often.

That said, you don't need to just go along to get along. If you have deeply held doubts that hormones and surgery are going to make your teen happy in the long run, it's perfectly reasonable to say so.
It's OK to say that the idea of surgery is scary to you.

You can say that while some doctors and therapists advise rapid diagnosis and treatment, there are other doctors who advise a slower approach.
You can say that the existence of detransitioners makes you worried that even people who feel strongly about being trans sometimes change

I think the KEY is to say these things once. Don't have multiple arguments about this. Don't engage their oppositional reflex. Once they know where you stand on this, don't push it.
When they come to you, probably with a request, then deal with that.

One strategy is to say that you are OK with non-medical changes (hair, clothes) but nothing medical until they are X years old. (Just remember the informed consent clinics will take them at 18 years in the United States.)
Then put your energy into other adults. Change the world!

I'm serious about that part.

I highly recommend @BenjaminABoyce 's videos with detransitioners, with therapists, with other experts. Learn what you are dealing with. Educate your friends and family, but discreetly, for the sake of your relationship with your teen.
Again, arguing rarely helps.

Here's a great place to start: