Kids drift towards bad behaviour spontaneously (while it takes a lot of effort to imbibe good habits in them). What looks like a minor aberration initially, soon builds on into a bad habit. If left on their own, the bad habits get permanently etched in their psyche.
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The more you, as a parent let them go adrift, the more difficult it becomes to bring them back on track.
What we need to do as a parent?
Three things...
What we need to do as a parent?
Three things...
1) Set a good example yourself. Kids observe you, imitate you. You smile, they smile; you shout, they shout.
2) Spend time with them. Be a keen observer of their behaviour. Most parents are too lazy to do spend time & observe them as much as they need to. Depriving kids of your time, make them emotionally weak & reactive!
3) Instant Course Correction - This is the prime objective of writing this thread. The bad behaviour has to be nipped in the bud, before it festers into a bad habit beyond repair.
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The feedback needs to by immediate. The kid needs to be told that the behaviour is wrong; also, subsequently needs to be told, what the expected behaviour is.
In the heat of the moment, the kid may resist by shouting, crying.
In the heat of the moment, the kid may resist by shouting, crying.
You need a two pronged approach for such situation.
a) At that very moment, the kid has to be told "Who's the Boss". This has to be done very judiciously - with assertion, not aggression (otherwise, you're setting a wrong example of tackling argument by shouting!).
a) At that very moment, the kid has to be told "Who's the Boss". This has to be done very judiciously - with assertion, not aggression (otherwise, you're setting a wrong example of tackling argument by shouting!).
b) When the dust settles, tempers cool down, the kid is more receptive. That's when you give him/her a warm hug and explain what is the expected behaviour and why! The kid's thought process gets a shaking in stage a, and gets a stronger & right setting in stage b.
This is similar to what exercise & rest do to your muscles. When you exercise, you put stress on muscles, break some cells. When you rest, the muscles are rebuilt much stronger & firmer! 💪
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Key Message: Instant course correction for bad behaviour
Key Words: instant course correction, assertive, desired behaviour, spend time, observe.
If you cannot do each & everything that I've said here, you shouldn't have produced them, in the first place!
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Key Words: instant course correction, assertive, desired behaviour, spend time, observe.
If you cannot do each & everything that I've said here, you shouldn't have produced them, in the first place!
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