Thread by @biartsfestival

One of the most frustrating aspects of this #binet situation is the #gaslighting. "Gaslighting is a tactic in which a person or entity, in order to gain more power, makes a victim question their reality" It's about power. (1 of 14) (psychologytoday.com/ca/blog/here-t…)

These are all from a book by Stephanie Sarkis on gaslighting "It works much better than you may think. Anyone is susceptible to gaslighting & it is a common technique of abusers, dictators, narcissists, and cult leaders." Gaslighters use the following techniques: (2 of 14)

1. "They tell blatant lies. You know it's an outright lie. Yet they are telling you this lie with a straight face. Why are they so blatant? Because they're setting up a precedent. Once they tell you a huge lie, you're not sure if anything they say is true." (3 of 14 )

2. "They deny they ever said something, even though you have proof. You know they said they would do something; you know you heard it. But they out and out deny it." (4 of 14 )

3. "They use what is near and dear to you as ammunition.
They know how important your kids are to you, and they know how important your identity is to you. So those may be one of the first things they attack." (5 of 14 )

4. "They wear you down over time. This is one of the insidious things about gaslighting—it is done gradually, over time. A lie here, a lie there, a snide comment every so often...and then it starts ramping up." (6 of 14 ) Source Psych Today (URL in post 1)

5. "Their actions do not match their words. When dealing with a person or entity that gaslights, look at what they are doing rather than what they are saying. What they are saying means nothing; it is just talk. What they are doing is the issue." (7 of 14 )

6. "They throw in positive reinforcement to confuse you. This person ... that is cutting you down, telling you that you don't have value, is now praising you for something you did. This adds an additional sense of uneasiness. You think, "Well maybe they aren't so bad." (8 of 14)

7. "They know confusion weakens people.
Gaslighters know that people like having a sense of stability and normalcy. Their goal is to uproot this and make you constantly question everything." (9 of 14 ) source Psych Today (URL in post 1)

8. "They project.
They are a drug user or a cheater, yet they are constantly accusing you of that. This is done so often that you start trying to defend yourself, and are distracted from the gaslighter's own behavior." (10 of 14)

9. "They try to align people against you.
Gaslighters are masters at manipulating and finding the people they know will stand by them no matter what—and they use these people against you." (11 of 14) Source Psych Today (URL in post 1)

10. "They tell you or others that you are crazy.
The gaslighter knows if they question your sanity, people will not believe you when you tell them the gaslighter is abusive or out-of-control. It's a master technique. " (12 of 14)

11. "They tell you everyone else is a liar. By telling you that everyone else (your family, the media) is a liar, it again makes you question your reality. You've never known someone with the audacity to do this, so they must be telling the truth, right?" (13 of 14)

"No. It's a manipulation technique. It makes people turn to the gaslighter for the "correct" information—which isn't correct information at all." (14 of 14)- source Psych Today (URL in post 1)

For instance, denying that they went after @JayneBShea and other independent creators/artists and reframing copyright as something to do with the bi flag & confederate flag, and companies like Target

For instance, an important community symbol, like the bipride flag...