Thread by @CallOutStalking

The #boyslockerroom got exposed because like the subreddit about a college in Chennai, this group was accessible to someone outside. What are we going to do about the porn-sharing WhatsApp groups in literally every HS/college class of boys? Do you think they don't exist? Ask boys

or if you've won the trust of teenagers, ask any girl too (though of course not all girls might be privy to the exact contents) but every teenager KNOWS that these groups exist and that their classmates are active part of it. We live in a country where the idea of sex ed is still

considered scandalous. We live among repressed teens who are turning to all the wrong sources for both information and validation of their behavior. The roots of this rot run deeper than what a 2-minute PSA or an occasional slap on the wrist can check. It's in our family system;

it's in our religions; it's in our great Indian "culture" to treat women as conquests; it's in our language that degrades and objectifies women from before they are born; it's in our upbringing; it's in our pop culture, be it Bollywood, regional cinema, indie music, memes, TV,...

serials, reality shows, even Western influences. (Just how sexist was GOT? Think!)

From every corner, boys find only reinforcement for the comfortable conditioning they've received over the years, so much that they cannot break out of it without some active help. As a society,

we need to do better. And you know who that we includes? That's right. MEN.

Men need to take responsibility. (We're talking about responsibility for a future generation here, not guilt. Guilt is different conversation. Don't come here to pick a fight.)
Men need to address this.

Men need to set an example. They need to recognise that society as well as the idea of masculinity are both in a terrible crisis and this is their chance to fix it. (Yeah, don't y'all love fixing up broken stuff?)

Boys listen to men, learn from men, imitate men, idolize men.

Other women and I can bawl our lungs out but a half hour on red-pill subreddits, one conversation in closed gamer groups or a 7 minute "rekt feminist" video on YouTube can undo everything we have said.

That's just to highlight how much of actively harmful influences surround us.

We can only appeal to decent adult men around us to step in and be what you tell us you are. That #NotAllMen are predators or silent enablers. In the interest of these boys and their future, at least, do the right thing.

Stand up to sexism. Call out disrespectful objectification

Tell boys that they are not defined by their "macho-ness". Demonstrate healthy masculinity. Discuss boundaries and consent. Teach them to look at women as equally fully human and not exotic objects. Talk about how you overcame the toxic conditioning which you grew up with. Take

the trouble to read, understand and teach them what "rape culture" is. Reassure them that growth is an ongoing process and that they can learn to be better every day. That they can earn the badge for not being trash, instead of fighting with random internet women to prove a point

On the whole, help them focus on being better. For which: start with being better, being more mindful of harm you might be causing directly or indirectly due to your own conditioning. Hold fellow men to account. Refuse to participate in or even silently watch the dehumanisation

of women. Stop sexualizing women in all contexts. Convey your disapproval of sexist humour/wife jokes/slut shaming. Above all, listen to women. Believe women.

P.S. Please don't do any of this as a performance for brownie points. This is not a contest of woker-than-thou. There's nobody giving out medals at the finishing line. Just do it because it's the right thing to do. Your reward is only the knowledge of how many men you've reformed