I’m not here tryna kill your vibe, I’m happy you’re here, but it’s also time for some honesty. So let’s sit down and have a chat.
First of all, just because you’re new to the fight don’t mean that the fight is new. There are people who have been in this struggle a long time.
*Rubs temples and gives a heavy Negro spiritual sigh*
The key is to speak out, not to speak over. Speak up when you see your skinfolk doing wrong but don’t speak over people of color who are saying the same thing.
If you’re placing yourself as an expert on race and not listening to and learning from black, brown, and indigenous people you’re talking over us.
“White fragility. I’m not fragile. I just think...”
Chyle hush. You said that you were wanting to be part of the fight, is that correct?
Then you need to first learn to fight your impulse to get defensive and throw a tantrum when you’re corrected by black people.
“Where can I get the book?”
Ok cool. Use it. Google is free. I’m sure some of the nice white folks in the comments will also help you out on resources.
Chyle, when you want to know about anything else on this earth, what do you do? You ask The Googles about it.
*side eye from hell*
“Oh, right. Google it...”
Yes. Google is free.
“But what if I make a mistake?”
“But what if I mess up? What if somebody calls me a racist when I’m trying so hard? What if...”
*Toni Morrison sigh*
*blank stares into the camera*
Chyle, why you crying?
“I feel bad...”
*Barack Obama sigh*
*Fake smile nod* Yeah...the unspoken expectation here is that I comfort you because you’re crying about how your whiteness has affected me and because you’ve had some grand revelation about racism.
*Harriet Tubman side eye*
“Oh right. Google is free.”
I just did. You have to do the work inside of you first so don’t say that you’re “against” racism but keep doing some of the same oppressive crap all the time.
So yeah. You’ve got a whole lot more living and learning to do. Peace.