For me, it can feel like a curse b/c so often I'm not in a position to do anything about it & so I end up having to watch as (what seems) avoidable become reality.
I'm not sure what the answer is, but part of the dilemma is that our communities often have a gap btwn those w/ authority for decision making & those w/ gifts of foresight/discernment.
Those who have ability to see potential problems can come across as pessimists & nobody wants that kind of negative energy in an organization, do we?
Obviously, this is a much larger, much more complicated conversation, but I wonder the degree to which our communities & churches reward positivity & optimism to the loss of warnings.
The last chapter in #AllThatsGood deals w/ this Q: How can we live with one another, benefit from each others' gifts, & also allow for dissent? How can those who offer warnings find the patience to wait while others process them?
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This is beautiful & reminds me that I've had an essay brewing for a couple years about link btwn male loneliness/depression & cultures that prioritize male comfort & privilege.
TL;DR: Excusing men of their responsibilities to women & children robs them of purpose & the very ties that bind them to community.
The shape of modern Western life is already deeply individualistic so loneliness is a constant threat. But there's a sense in which men are *more* at risk of falling thru gaps b/c male embodiment does not naturally force a man to be bound to others in way female embodiment does.
On this fine Saturday morning, a few thoughts re: Alistair Begg...
*cracks knuckles*
(For unaware, Begg is a conservative evangelical pastor who holds traditional views of gender & sexuality but who recently advised a congregant to attend her grandson's marriage his trans fiancé. Despite conservative backlash, Begg is standing his ground.)
In the ensuing debates, marriage traditionalists are divided on Begg's advice. Some have cancelled Begg while others have agreed to disagree. Begg himself names it as an example of the difference btwn US evangelicalism & UK evangelicalism (Begg's Scottish) & yes... but also...
In response to this article, someone asked me why mid-tier leaders prop up abusive rulers. Are they being blackmailed? Do these leaders have dirt on them?
I cannot reiterate this enough: The mediocrity is the point.
So much political & ecclesiastical corruption can be explained by simple fact that people are lazy & consumptive. They want to live like little kings over little kingdoms & have no higher ambition for life than indulgence. Sloth, greed, gluttony are deadly sins for a reason.
It's the nature of authoritarian leaders to remain happily ensconced in failing societies as long as they get to be at the top & indulge their base appetites. They create worlds of fiction & surround themselves w/ folks who are also content w/ a just small piece of that pie
Don't underestimate how much of authoritarian parenting is a survival mechanism against personal internal chaos. Folks who experience internal disorder will often try to order their environments & the people in them instead.
Sure, authoritarianism is a power grab but to what end? Simply to have power? More likely to use that power as a way to protect/stabilize self--including stabilizing self in the new, unpredictable role of parenting. It's a survival technique.
So even tho authoritarian parenting often comes w/ a coolness that's named "emotional maturity," it's more likely a form of detachment from self & others. This detachment is necessary to survive the complexity & variability of human relationships.
Repressing emotions is like taking the batteries out of the smoke detector when it goes off. The warning might signal a fire & the need to flee or it might simply be burnt toast. But only the foolish think the alarm is the problem.
Teaching children to ignore & repress their emotions is especially dangerous b/c they need these responses to keep them safe in the world. Rather, we teach our children how to recognize, define, & articulate their emotions while helping them engaging with reality around them.
Emotion maturity does not mean repressing or ignoring our emotions--shoving them down until they "go away." Emotional maturity means learning to interpret the breadth of our God-given emotional responses & walking in wisdom.
Good morning, all! Looks like some folks are still upset about my article on SNAP participants. And while, I know I don't have to do this, just for kicks, I'm going follow-up on one particular response that I'm seeing.
New Thesis: The line about welfare in #RichMenNorthOfRichmond isn't about abuse of welfare so much as about loss of purchasing power & the effect SNAP has on food market by keeping prices artificially high & thus out of reach for working poor not on SNAP.
I want to address this b/c it is actually true that SNAP works in favor of (& always has) food providers. It emerges from USDA & Farm Bill & is intrinsically interwoven w/ farm subsidies. It does affect the ratio btwn supply & demand by putting more cash into the system.