A short thread on my creative / personal breakthroughs this month:
I've always struggled with being a good member of a team. It felt like I had to either be a "yes man", and suppress my thoughts and feelings, or I would get into "debate mode" and make collaborators feel bad.
I've always struggled with being a good member of a team. It felt like I had to either be a "yes man", and suppress my thoughts and feelings, or I would get into "debate mode" and make collaborators feel bad.
I realized a very basic flaw in my communication style:
I was trying to get other people to understand me before showing that I was interested in understanding *them*
This turns out to be incredibly important.
I was trying to get other people to understand me before showing that I was interested in understanding *them*
This turns out to be incredibly important.
I think I really did always just want to understand people and be understood, but my communication style didn't make people feel that way. Once I fixed this, I started to learn and grow a lot faster.
People are more interested in collaborating when you make it feel good!
People are more interested in collaborating when you make it feel good!
The hardest part is becoming conscious of the dynamic when it's happening, before it's too late.
It really helps to have a trusted collaborator that knows you're coming from a good place but tend to fall into this pattern, and can help you snap out of it.
It really helps to have a trusted collaborator that knows you're coming from a good place but tend to fall into this pattern, and can help you snap out of it.
Besides that, meditation helps :)
