so! hours later ....
the plan is to put it all in a blog post monday, with some narrative of events.. not to center myself, just close the loop.
i spoke up after pressure from Black women i admire (worship?) who said my silence was a cancer, and my duty was to speak to white people. should i have led with that? would it have mattered? should it? sigh.
like "BELIEVE ALL WOMEN"! sure, lets overcorrect a spell, but, ah..