I am so absolutely sick and tired of seeing people spread this disgusting rumor that objectifies me, makes a truckload of revolting assumptions about me, and scrambles up events to pin Graham's big turn to evil on something his nazi friends showed him 5 damn years after the fact.
Graham's big dive into transphobia really got started on October 23rd, 2015, when he was really sucking up to noted flaming bigots Rebecca Reilly-Cooper and Gia Milinovich in particular, and starting to parrot their hateful garbage. I can get real specific with that date, because
it is indeed true that the guy used to absolutely live on my twitter feed and frequently DMed me. I can just scroll down the ol' DM conversation list and find the one where he came crying to me about other trans people calling him a bigot for "standing up for his abused friends."
Right now, I'm looking at all the corrections to his early crap I came back to him with when that started, and also this message here he sent me a couple months later when he publicly stepped in that puddle of bullshit again.
Have a look. Timestamps and everything.
I responded
Have a look. Timestamps and everything.
I responded
to that by providing him several links indisputably showing the specific bigots he claimed to be defending spreading unambiguous hate speech, some links where he could properly educate himself further and without saying so to his face, wrote him off as having fallen down the hate
well, ready to accept a big long apology should he eventually grab that rope I tossed him and climb back out, but not really expecting it to happen. And sure enough, over the next several years, he continued to grow into more and more of a grotesque hateful bigot, allying himself
with literal nazis, attacking all sorts of people he used to praise as important voices people should be listening to, and I've certainly been plenty vocal about him being one of the most disgusting bigots in the world who absolutely needs to be permanently banned from this site.
This ridiculous disgusting narrative about him being my spurned ex-lover or vomiting when he saw pictures of "what I really look like" meanwhile started up on or around December 19th, 2019, some 4 years and change of him being an unrepentant bigot past when I cut ties with him,
in the wake of him being shown one of the many ridiculous photos a nazi-run site dedicated to stalking and harassing trans people circulates of what they imagine I look like, and proceeded to spend a full 24 hours or so saying some truly disgusting things about that photo, and me
I spent that whole day fielding some damn weird "words of concern and sympathy" from people assuming I must be getting absolutely hammered with harassment from the trolls he was trying to activate, which was just surreal on my end because I've done a good enough job of blocking
transphobic accounts that literally not one post actually reached me. At one point in responding to those concerned people, I jokingly replied to speculation on whether he had some kind of crush on me back in the day with "Well, you tell me," and a screenshot or two of the sort
of DMs he used to send me. People pushing this absurd revisionist theory here love to push that post as "evidence" that backs them up, but it's not like he was hitting on me or asking me out or anything, just weirdly enthusiastic about reading the sort of big long threads I write
Despite clearly having no basis in reality, the narrative of this particular hatemonger having turned to evil because some trans woman who turned out to be super gross and ugly refusing to screw him is just entirely too appealing to the sort of person who likes to be seen as Good
And Heroic by condemning hatemongers, but who also really loves to find women to blame for men being terrible and/or laughing at gross caricatures of trans women. So people keep sharing crap like this around, which in reality does no harm at all to Graham (who apparently ran with
this crap himself in an interview in May? I'm literally only just learning that tonight) but forces me to constantly rehash with well-meaning people the fact that I don't look a damn thing like these photos bigots keep spreading around and don't actually need their reassurances
about inner beauty, and causes less than well-meaning people to stalk and terrorize me for months, like this creep:
Plus I have to contend with the mental image of this putrid bigot wanting to jam his penis into me and I dare any one of you to visualize
Plus I have to contend with the mental image of this putrid bigot wanting to jam his penis into me and I dare any one of you to visualize
that without wanting to vomit or taking a hot-enough-to-boil-your-skin-off shower.
So please, when you see people spreading this crap around, loudly set them straight for me. If you've been spreading this sort of crap around, a nice sincere apology is fine, but if you want to do
So please, when you see people spreading this crap around, loudly set them straight for me. If you've been spreading this sort of crap around, a nice sincere apology is fine, but if you want to do
one better, there's a Patreon link right up there in my profile. And if anyone REALLY wants to help me deal with the fallout of this crap, I'd certainly appreciate some actually adequate media coverage of the whole mess. I'd be happy to sit down for an interview on the subject,
and even happier to pen an op/ed or something to lay it all out myself.
Seriously, words cannot convey how gross and dehumanizing it is to see threads like that floating around constantly, and people need to start calling them out for what they really are.
Seriously, words cannot convey how gross and dehumanizing it is to see threads like that floating around constantly, and people need to start calling them out for what they really are.
