Thread by @sarnchos

See ehn!

Marriage is a long distance journey

Its not a race, & it certainly isn't a competition between any of us

When running a long distance race, the rules that apply to short distances no longer apply

You are going to live with someone who will know every detail about you

See those "ojoro" that athletes do in sprint races, and is usually called "false start", or "jumping the gun"?

Nobody has time for such people when it comes to marathons

This because in a marathon, your initial "gra gra" is not what will help you cross the finish line!

Running a marathon means you need to run at a pace you are comfortable with.

You need to get used to conserving oxygen for hours on end, while taxing your body to the limit

Your body needs to be relaxed while maintaining an even speed with your posse of fellow runners

In a marathon, what matters most isn't being in the first position for most of the race.

What matters most is finishing the race

In a marathon there's plenty of water and juice on offer from bystanders, and you can decide to engorge yourself to the brim with them

Unfortunately such overconsumption of fluids can hinder you from running comfortably, and perhaps even finishing the race!

The same way all this applies to marriage

A marathon reveals the limit of your endurance

In a marathon nobody cares if you're short or tall, dark or light

What matters is finishing the race.

Lying about your abilities is useless in a marathon, because everyone will discover the truth before the race is over

Trying to "overdo" and keep sprinting ahead of the pack is also useless in a marathon.

They will catch up with you and the

stuff you're made of will be exposed

Wearing fancy gear to a marathon doesn't mean a thing

The fancy gear will be cut away from your body faster than you can imagine if you collapse mid-race gasping for breath

The best way to run a marathon is to come as you truly are

Find a pace (and running partner(s)) that suits you, be empathetic with each other, & just run!

Lack of preparation will easily be exposed in a marathon, as it will be in a marriage

Gimmicks don't work for long either

After a decade or 2, your partner can read you like a book

So what will you do when all your tricks have been understood?

Keep repeating them? Or find new tricks?

Why not just open yourself to the scrutiny of your partner & own your flaws?

None of us is perfect, and marriage is an equalizer

You can't outcompete your marriage partner

You must run as a team, because when others see you, they don't see individuals.

They see a team.

Of course marriage isn't compulsory. It's not for everyone,

And we may often find we can't continue it any longer.

Whichever way we choose to approach it, the "rules" set at the

beginning are the same rules that will apply throughout the marriage

You may be "on top" at the beginning of the marriage based on some "favourable" rules you set

But don't feel cheated when the same "rules" put you "behind" as the marriage progresses

Its best to be sincere

and totally fair in a marriage.

Don't assume your partner is a fool, simply because you seem to have grasped the nuances of the "game" faster than they did.

What goes around, comes around.

.....Just some Saturday night blues from your trash talking twitter friend 😉.....

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