A THREAD on insightful powerful ideas shared by Mark Manson (@IAmMarkManson):
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If you think it's you against the world, chances are it's really just you against yourself.
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If you think it's you against the world, chances are it's really just you against yourself.
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Finding the passion and purpose in your life is a trial-by-fire process.
You don't simply wake up one day and become happy doing one thing forever and ever.
It's a constant work-in-progress.
Finding the passion and purpose in your life is a trial-by-fire process.
You don't simply wake up one day and become happy doing one thing forever and ever.
It's a constant work-in-progress.
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All unattractive behavior can be boiled down to one thing: neediness.
All unattractive behavior can be boiled down to one thing: neediness.
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The definition of wisdom is focusing on what you control, letting go of what you can't control, and recognizing the difference.
The definition of wisdom is focusing on what you control, letting go of what you can't control, and recognizing the difference.
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WHY SAYING 'NO' HELPS YOU
+Separates you from people you don't like
+Frees up time to focus on what's important
+Narcissists hate hearing it
+Determines whether people actually care about you +Forces you to put your own needs first
+Makes saying 'yes' more powerful
WHY SAYING 'NO' HELPS YOU
+Separates you from people you don't like
+Frees up time to focus on what's important
+Narcissists hate hearing it
+Determines whether people actually care about you +Forces you to put your own needs first
+Makes saying 'yes' more powerful
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How to find your purpose: It’s not about some great achievement, but merely finding a way to spend your limited amount of time well.
How to find your purpose: It’s not about some great achievement, but merely finding a way to spend your limited amount of time well.
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Instead of asking, "Why is this happening to me?" try asking, "What can I learn from this?"
It's impossible to regret something that has ultimately benefited you.
Instead of asking, "Why is this happening to me?" try asking, "What can I learn from this?"
It's impossible to regret something that has ultimately benefited you.
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Life will never conform to all of our desires. Ever.
You can either get good at dealing with this fact or good at avoiding it.
Life will never conform to all of our desires. Ever.
You can either get good at dealing with this fact or good at avoiding it.
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Just because you're offended doesn't mean you're right.
Being offended is a choice and should be chosen wisely.
Just because you're offended doesn't mean you're right.
Being offended is a choice and should be chosen wisely.
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When making any major life decision, remember: If it's not a "Fuck Yes;" then it's a "No."
When making any major life decision, remember: If it's not a "Fuck Yes;" then it's a "No."
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You don’t build psychological resilience by feeling good all the time.
You build psychological resilience by getting better at feeling bad.
You don’t build psychological resilience by feeling good all the time.
You build psychological resilience by getting better at feeling bad.
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Money will come and go throughout life, but when you learn a useful piece of knowledge, you have it forever.
Therefore, the best investment of a young person’s resources is education and knowledge.
Money will come and go throughout life, but when you learn a useful piece of knowledge, you have it forever.
Therefore, the best investment of a young person’s resources is education and knowledge.
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We all avoid the painful moments but it's in the painful moments where our true growth is found.
We all avoid the painful moments but it's in the painful moments where our true growth is found.
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5 Lies We Often Tell Ourselves
1. "I know what I'm doing..."
2. "I can make him/her change..."
3. "I'd do it if I had more time..."
4. "Nobody would understand..."
5. "I need this to be happy..."
5 Lies We Often Tell Ourselves
1. "I know what I'm doing..."
2. "I can make him/her change..."
3. "I'd do it if I had more time..."
4. "Nobody would understand..."
5. "I need this to be happy..."
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Just as one must suffer physical pain to build stronger bone and muscle, one must suffer emotional pain to develop greater emotional resilience, a stronger sense of self, increased compassion and a generally happier life.
Just as one must suffer physical pain to build stronger bone and muscle, one must suffer emotional pain to develop greater emotional resilience, a stronger sense of self, increased compassion and a generally happier life.
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Self-awareness is like an onion.
There are multiple layers to it, and the more you peel them back the more likely you're going to start crying at inappropriate times.
Self-awareness is like an onion.
There are multiple layers to it, and the more you peel them back the more likely you're going to start crying at inappropriate times.
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People who struggle to manage their emotions tend to suffer in their relationships, struggle to find motivation to exercise, or eat well, or manage their time and money properly.
If you get your mind in order, everything else gets that much easier.
People who struggle to manage their emotions tend to suffer in their relationships, struggle to find motivation to exercise, or eat well, or manage their time and money properly.
If you get your mind in order, everything else gets that much easier.
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It's a simple fact of life: if you want to do something incredible, something that makes you stand out above the rest, then you have to become comfortable being different--that means being misunderstood, criticized, even hated.
It's a simple fact of life: if you want to do something incredible, something that makes you stand out above the rest, then you have to become comfortable being different--that means being misunderstood, criticized, even hated.
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"Go to Heaven for the climate, Hell for the company." - Mark Twain
"Go to Heaven for the climate, Hell for the company." - Mark Twain
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Remember: What gets attention is not always important.
And what is important rarely gets attention.
Remember: What gets attention is not always important.
And what is important rarely gets attention.
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We all have to care about something.
But if you don't have anything meaningful in your life, your mind will imagine the stupid and frivolous to be a matter of life and death.
We all have to care about something.
But if you don't have anything meaningful in your life, your mind will imagine the stupid and frivolous to be a matter of life and death.
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The greatest value of goals isn't in accomplishing them, it's in the direction they provide you.
The greatest value of goals isn't in accomplishing them, it's in the direction they provide you.
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Money is nice. But the real value of money emerges when we leverage it as a tool towards some other, greater goal rather than making it the goal itself.
Money is nice. But the real value of money emerges when we leverage it as a tool towards some other, greater goal rather than making it the goal itself.
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Evil people never believe that they are evil; rather they believe that everyone else is evil.
Evil people never believe that they are evil; rather they believe that everyone else is evil.
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CUT THE CRAP
Literally, cut the unnecessary distractions out of your life — delete apps, unfriend and unfollow toxic people, stop committing to activities you don't care about. Life is too short.
CUT THE CRAP
Literally, cut the unnecessary distractions out of your life — delete apps, unfriend and unfollow toxic people, stop committing to activities you don't care about. Life is too short.
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Humans are by and large the same, with the same needs, the same desires and the same awful biases that pit them haplessly against each other.
Humans are by and large the same, with the same needs, the same desires and the same awful biases that pit them haplessly against each other.
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Ever have the experience where the less you care about something, the more likely you are to get it?
Confidence comes from a comfort with failure, so paradoxically, the more comfortable you become with failure, the more likely you are to experience success.
Ever have the experience where the less you care about something, the more likely you are to get it?
Confidence comes from a comfort with failure, so paradoxically, the more comfortable you become with failure, the more likely you are to experience success.
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The way you measure yourself is how you measure others, and how you assume others measure you.
The way you measure yourself is how you measure others, and how you assume others measure you.
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There is no such thing as change without pain, no growth without discomfort.
That’s why it is impossible to become someone new without first grieving the loss of who you used to be.
There is no such thing as change without pain, no growth without discomfort.
That’s why it is impossible to become someone new without first grieving the loss of who you used to be.
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A huge part of Buddhist practice is to develop the ability to sit in a range of “not knowing” and learn to get comfortable there.
In fact, it’s often the desire for certainty that causes us to suffer more than the uncertainty itself.
A huge part of Buddhist practice is to develop the ability to sit in a range of “not knowing” and learn to get comfortable there.
In fact, it’s often the desire for certainty that causes us to suffer more than the uncertainty itself.
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PROS OF MEDITATION
Increases: health, self-awareness, emotional stability, memory, focus, empathy, intuition.
And reduces: stress, anxiety and the need for external validation.
CONS OF MEDITATION
For some reason, it's really fucking hard to sit down and actually do it.
PROS OF MEDITATION
Increases: health, self-awareness, emotional stability, memory, focus, empathy, intuition.
And reduces: stress, anxiety and the need for external validation.
CONS OF MEDITATION
For some reason, it's really fucking hard to sit down and actually do it.
