Thread by @DrBrittaniJ

(1/12) Getting emotionally close to liberal White women is exhausting. I need a break.

They draw you in with calls of shared womanhood and you relax your guard with them.

But then, the inevitable bait and switch. That’s the problem.

A thread.

(2/12) Progressive White woman racism is the worst of all in my opinion. Theirs is the sneering, arrogant certitude that “I’m not the problem”.

Theirs is the “you can be liberated but only after I get mine” type of racism.

(3/12)Theirs is the “we’re in this together but only as long as you know that my needs always trump yours as a Black person” type of racism.

(4/12) White women are on 100% on board for the liberation of women unless those women are Black or transwomen.

God help you if you are both of those things.

(5/12) Liberal White women almost always cut you to the bone with their unadulterated racism if you get too close.

They are traumatizing.
They are exhausting.

(6/12) See, all their energy goes into making sure YOU see that they are not the problem when it comes to racism, instead of doing the actual work of dismantling their own internalized racism.

(7/12) Nope. Liberal White women want you to do that emotional labor for them. For free. They want Black women to teach them, coddle them, hold their hand and wipe their tears as they learn about racism.

(8/12) White women perform “guilt” and center themselves, unapologetically, while they simulataneously traumatize, gaslight, demean and dehumanize us, invisibly, at every turn.

(9/12) Their energy is poured into performing their allyship for the Black gaze for likes, handshakes and admiration. It bolsters their egos and fragile sense of self worth - which both stem from their own internalized oppression as women.

It is about them. It is not about us.

(10/12) As the dialogue about racism becomes more mainstream, let’s not shy away from nuanced conversations like these.

(11/12) Liberal White women, you are silently and unapologetically killing us by a thousand invisible cuts. You are making us tend to you while we are bleeding out on the floor from your endless assault.

(12/12) And all the while you are standing on our backs, silencing us and traumatizing us in your single-minded pursuit of your own horrific brand exclusionary liberation.

I’m tired.