Thread: "Stop caring what other people think of you"
That is biologically impossible
Do this instead
That is biologically impossible
Do this instead
It is in our biological hard-wiring to be accepted 'in the tribe'
Being outcast from the tribe could mean death in the past
Making our desire to be accepted so strong because of it's survival roots
Only one type of person is truly able to not care what others think of them...
Being outcast from the tribe could mean death in the past
Making our desire to be accepted so strong because of it's survival roots
Only one type of person is truly able to not care what others think of them...
Sociopaths
Anyone else who claims to not care what others think
...are often trying hard to show how much they don't care what others think
Which means they care what others think
Anyone else who claims to not care what others think
...are often trying hard to show how much they don't care what others think
Which means they care what others think
So then what are our options?
BECOME A SOCIOPATH
...jokes
There's a subtle tweak we can make
Satisfying our primal desires while not being enslaved by the opinions of others
BECOME A SOCIOPATH
...jokes
There's a subtle tweak we can make
Satisfying our primal desires while not being enslaved by the opinions of others
1) Develop & gain clarity on who matters
The list of people whose opinions you do value. People you do care about
Notice how small the list is. Handful of friends, partner, certain family members
This is your established tribe
The list of people whose opinions you do value. People you do care about
Notice how small the list is. Handful of friends, partner, certain family members
This is your established tribe
The extended circle of acquaintances, their approval is a bonus not a requirement
It's truly not needed in your life. Cool if you get it, cool if you don't
Clarity in who your core tribe is satisfies the primal desire for acceptance
It's truly not needed in your life. Cool if you get it, cool if you don't
Clarity in who your core tribe is satisfies the primal desire for acceptance
It is better to have a core tribe of 5 people who are 9/10 or 10/10 aligned with you
Versus a large group of 50 acquaintances who are 4/10 aligned with you
Go for 10!
"Liked by many loved by none" is becoming more common in this social media world
Versus a large group of 50 acquaintances who are 4/10 aligned with you
Go for 10!
"Liked by many loved by none" is becoming more common in this social media world
2) Purpose
"When nothing matters everything matters"
When the slot for purpose is not occupied
Every little thing that happens day to day slides into the slot of purpose
Including what others think of you
"When nothing matters everything matters"
When the slot for purpose is not occupied
Every little thing that happens day to day slides into the slot of purpose
Including what others think of you
Your brain's RAS focuses on select things
When your thoughts aren't filled with your goals for the day, things to do, plans with your tribe, etc
Every petty little thing becomes the purpose
Including chasing the approval of everyone and caring WAY too much what others think
When your thoughts aren't filled with your goals for the day, things to do, plans with your tribe, etc
Every petty little thing becomes the purpose
Including chasing the approval of everyone and caring WAY too much what others think
The term "don't care what others think" gets thrown around a lot
Unless you're a sociopath that's not going to happen for you
> Get clear on who your tribe is to satisfy that drive
> Have purpose, goals, hobbies so that what other people think is of lower importance to you
Unless you're a sociopath that's not going to happen for you
> Get clear on who your tribe is to satisfy that drive
> Have purpose, goals, hobbies so that what other people think is of lower importance to you
^ With those two things checked off
Your internal frame will hold more weight, more real to you than what happens externally
Then you truly will be able to "not care what others think" instead of having to forcefully act it
Thank you for reading,
Cheers
- Yous
Your internal frame will hold more weight, more real to you than what happens externally
Then you truly will be able to "not care what others think" instead of having to forcefully act it
Thank you for reading,
Cheers
- Yous
