Confidence is not a static destination, it’s more of a dynamic mechanism - the way you metabolize reality

a thread on confidence 🧵

https://twitter.com/alexhormozi/status/1618407726450880512

My favorite definition of confidence comes from Chase Hughes

1) Lack of timidity & reservation

2) Assumed permission to behave as you do

3) Generalized expectation of positive outcomes & capability

The Vitality Matrix (thread)

The Number 1 thing you can do for your health that nobody talks about

Other protocols are essentially useless if you don't have this key piece... So you've probably seen things like 'the Mediterranean diet' pick up in popularity

Ya the food is great,
But it fails to mention cultural differences producing vitality in the region

Sunlight, walking, socializing, community, lower stress, laughter

Every guy that says "quit caffeine" did so AFTER they were successful

It did not make them successful

To achieve escape velocity, to get off the runway - you do things that are unsustainable & unscaleable

Make it efficient after you make it effective That's how Amazon, Facebook, and these start-ups have taken over

They do things which are unsustainable & unscaleable to acquire market share and achieve liftoff

Then after they got everyone hooked, they start cleaning things up to optimize for scale and sustainability

"Without vision the people perish"

When nothing matters, everything matters (thread) When nothing holds primary significance

When there is no vision, mission, or top priority

Every petty little thing slides into that slot because it's vacant

When nothing matters, everything matters

“How to stop procrastinating course” …this is nonsense

Here’s a free course:
Do what you need to do

(thread) If you procrastinate

1) It’s because you’re allowed to procrastinate, there’s no consequences for inaction in a micro timeframe

2) It’s because you’re doing something you don’t want to do

Attraction & Retention (thread)

2 ingredients for love and success Opposites attract
Similarities retain

Attraction is not a choice
Acting on it CAN be a choice

I say 'can' because it's unlikely to be resisted. Especially in today's world where there is a deficit within so many

*Thread* - Built Different

It's impossible to change who you are You can't change your blood type
You can change your blood flow

A 5'9 white guy can't become a 6'1 black guy
A 6'1 black guy can't become a 5'4 white girl

With physical qualities this is obvious
Yet with non-physical people think

"you can do anything you set your mind to"

People would rather be impressive than be impressed

Don’t be rude, let people shine (thread) People would rather be impressive than be impressed

If I ask you for dating advice

You’d feel better than if I gave you dating advice

Underlying implication when I ask you:
- I trust you
- I think you are desired
- I believe you have wisdom
- I believe you have value

He must accept the risk of looking foolish in his path to fortune

He must accept the risk of looking cringe in his path to competence

Who can not accept the possibility of consequences sacrifices the possibility of rewards

Just as the warrior accepts the possibility of death I cannot be defeated

Every action has a equal & opposing reaction

I win or receive the equivalent in wisdom

Feedback determines strategy not self worth

To be unmoved by criticism be unmoved by praise

Feedback & Outcomes = data for strategy not definitions of self

*Thread* - The Feedback Loop

Fear - the hidden obstruction He feels guilty when receiving

It feels salesy to promote his works
He has a problem asking for payment

Receiving is the beginning of the feedback loop

Money coming in = symptom of friction in receiving

📕Synergy Systems - design a success feedback loop

Just use the secret 'mirror' formula (thread) 📜 "As you believe so shall be done on to you"

93% of communication is non verbal

Actions speak louder than words

What you think is not what you believe

How you BEHAVE shows what you really believe

*Thread* Do you know your secret power level? ⚔️All power is a double edge sword

Technology is a power

You can use technology or technology can use you

With great power comes great responsibility

*Thread* Dangerous is the right answer to the wrong question

Problem solving is a PROCESS, not a talent

Increased Process = Decreased Problems Dangerous is the right answer to the wrong question

He will go on exerting energy executing on the perceived solution

He will then hit a wall

He's realized he exerted all that energy but the problem remains fully in tact

At best it's symptoms only partly soothed

*Thread* Your biggest weakness can become your biggest strength

How to pivot that energy
Turn the knob from cold to hot I fell into a trap

a trap many have fallen into

When you lack money and need money fast

You start looking for ways to make more money fast

*Thread* Probing Games

Unconscious tests we run on each other

(a communication cheat code) Humans have a tendency to withdraw expression to see if others will probe deeper

We unconsciously do this to see if people care and value us

The best example to illustrate this is a conscious way we do this

*Thread* - Thinking causes more problems then it solves

What actually solves things is... Adrenaline & stress are designed to trigger action

- Negotiating with emotions doesn't work

- Trying to control emotions often fails & requires tons of energy

If you feel freezing, the solution is to move & get warm

Not to trick yourself into thinking you're warm

*Thread* - Manipulation & Toxicity

EVERYONE is manipulative Most manipulation = coping mechanisms done unconsciously

Very few people can consciously manipulate

To consciously manipulate would require:

- Strategic thinking
- Solid acting
- Understanding of social dynamics
- Overcoming social conditioning to remove fear of doing 'bad'

Darkness is the absence of light

Darkness can’t be removed, adding more light is the solution

There is faith in bad things happening & faith in good things happening

Fear of bad things can’t be removed

Adding more focus & faith in good things happening is the solution Where attention goes energy flows

If you spent a month researching ice cream

You’d know A LOT about ice cream

Spend a month focusing on bad you’ll get more of it

Spend a month focusing on good you’ll get more of it

📜 “be not to overcome evil, but overcome evil with good”

Never stop flirting

- He gets some followers

Then loses his charisma, puts in less effort, switches to a weird know it all tone

- He gets into a relationship

Then charm goes away, puts in low effort

His positive gains are temporary, because his positive actions are temporary I've heard people say "the universe will test you"

it'll test to see if you really about that life

ultimately seeing DO YOU BELONG:

does a result make you change your behavior? is this unfamiliar to you?

if yes, you don't belong

you will be kicked out & will lose the result

*Thread* - (e)motion

Manipulate Energy, leverage emotions, & defeat low energy Emotion = energy in motion

You don't own feelings, they are not who you are

Just like you don't own radio stations you tune into

Feelings are signals of the amount of energy around you & flowing through you

The "loud struggler" publicizes their pain for gain

Can be for money, guilt tripping for entry to something exclusive, etc

Even communicating struggle in private with peers

They typically won't have a solution & will lose respect for you It is unnatural to publicly cry of struggle

It is best in private, often with a stranger

Someone who directly offers clarity & solutions

Talking with a stranger (paid advisor or a community)

Who has overcome what you are now facing will provide the most clarity & resolution