July 10: #BOUNDARIES
Can’t screenshot this one today because it’s too long to fit. I got a little carried away. Boundaries are near and dear to me. Enjoy the 🧵
Can’t screenshot this one today because it’s too long to fit. I got a little carried away. Boundaries are near and dear to me. Enjoy the 🧵
It’s my hope that we’re all familiar with the word #boundaries. Over the past few years, there have been a plethora of articles, podcasts, and think pieces discussing boundaries. Add whatever adjective you choose (personal, professional, physical, healthy, etc.). Have at it.
The point is still the same. We all need to define that line that others are not permitted to cross. Yes, you are allowed to do that. That’s your power and it’s not to be given nor taken away.
Define what you’re comfortable with and stick to it. I realize that this is easier said than done but practice makes progress (not perfect, because perfection is overrated). If a certain boundary doesn’t work, redefine it.
The goal is to create space so that you’re able to nurture yourself, effectively manage stress, and live the life that you desire. It sounds cliché, but the truism here cannot be debated.
If your boundaries are flimsy, be prepared for people to push right on past them and try to take advantgae of you. When you do finally enforce your boundaries, and people realize that they’re longer able to use you, or you’re not going to do three jobs for one salary......
be prepared for the backlash. When folk can’t use you like they used to be able to, you become the villain. Here’s a reality check: You are not the villain. Boundary and carry on. 💁🏾♀️
People pleasers, self-proclaimed overachievers, and folks who set nonSMART goals are among the few types of people that have trouble establishing and maintaining functional boundaries for obvious reasons. Those who need to see things concretely also find it difficult.
Boundaries are abstract (unless it’s a fence or wall or...you get the picture).
Do you need to establish or redefine your boundaries? Today is just as good a day as any! Break the cycle....start by putting one foot out of the hamster wheel and go from there!
Do you need to establish or redefine your boundaries? Today is just as good a day as any! Break the cycle....start by putting one foot out of the hamster wheel and go from there!
