Thread by @ArmaniTalks

'I'm ugly, any tips?'

How are you ugly?

'Uh...i'm short and my face looks like sasquatch.'

You're focusing a lot on what you can't control.

Focus on what you can.

Lift weights, dress nice & fix your personality.

Remember, handsome is physical.

Attractive is behavioral

'So ugliness can be fixed?'

It's not a game of fixing..

It's a game of playing with variables.

Sort of like math 👀👇

Confidence is an equation that you need to solve in CONTEXT to your life.

Not someone else's

That's why a certain piece of advice can work with some people & fall with others.

That's because everyone's perception maps are different.

'What's a perception map? First time hearing about this?'

A perception map is how you view the world.

And it's created via unique experiences, circumstances & knowledge

At this point, you think you're ugly.

And you make it worse by focusing on the FIXED numbers of your equation.

While in reality, you should be focusing on the dynamic ones

you can't control your height & face structure.

But what you can control is your personality.

How you dress.

Athleticism etc

all the time you're spending focusing on what you CAN'T control...

There's a person with LESS than you, who is focusing on what they CAN

'Why do you specifically talk about athleticism, wardrobe & personality for?'

Because when you play around with these variables...

You can hit the jackpot & undo a lot of setbacks

I used to be 135 lbs at 6 foot.

A walking stick.

Confidence took a leap when i worked my way up to a black belt in taekwondo, playing basketball & lifting weights.

That's when physique altered

-Combat sports teach you grit.

-Team sports build social skills.

-Weights teach you accountability.

Soft skills which amplify self esteem

How you dress is also in your control.

Everyone has different styles.

Someone's closet is like someone's cellphone.

The content within will never be identical

My wardrobe rules are:

1. Has to fit.
2. Has to be something I can wear 50 years from now.

If it doesn't follow those 2 rules, I don't want it

Less is more

But pick whatever works for you.

The wardrobe influences mentality.

You'll immediately notice the influence when you wear a custom fit suit vs the one you got in a thrift store

no offense

But the most important of all of this is the personality.

Without that, all else falls apart.

The great physique & wardrobe mean nothing if its hanging on a bitter soul

'What does it mean to have an attractive personality Armani?'

Someone that magnetizes, than repels.

'And how do i do that Armani?'

What's funny is, that its pretty simple.

You just need some common sense on human nature & not be rude.

But plenty fail at this

Signs of an Attractive Personality:

-Has life mission
-Listens rather than just nodding head
-includes everyone in convo
-can introduce others
-stands up for themselves
-has a sense of humor
-invested in self improvement in some way

etc

Someone's personality can be their unique advantage or their downfall.

Energy only comes in 2 forms:

-Empowering
-Draining

Which one are you?

If you think your personality is fixed, then you have been sold a lie by society.

'Why would they lie to me?!'

Bc if they can make you think your personality is fixed, then it's easier to control you

But that's a thread for another time

Bottom line is that your personality is not fixed.

And you don't need me to tell you this.

You just need to take a walk down memory lane.

Are you the same person you were 10 years ago?

'Haha hell no.'

What about 5?

'Hm..no...'

What about 1?

'Wow! No, I wasn't...'

Then why would you ever think personality was fixed bud

That's because it wasn't

You can always rewire your neural pathways, nervous system & perception map to be born again.

Fix the equations in your life my friend.

Experiment until you find the confidence formula that works for you.

Don't just leave it at 'i'm ugly' and cry like a victim

We are the happiest when we are challenged & working

And the most miserable when we aren't challenged & just letting time pass by

Only you're in charge of your confidence.

Only you can fix your behavior.

And only you can level up in your journey.

So have fun while doing it

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