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When a woman has an abortion then has unprotected PIV sex 2 days later & wants to know if it's possible she could get pregnant, that indicates parents and society are doing their children a great disservice by not educating them about fertility & pregnancy.
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Unfortunately, working at a pregnancy helpline means I see the worst sides of issues at hand, like pregnancy, abortion, BC, EC, STIs, etc.
I can tell you abortion is done as birth control sometimes. I can tell you not every women gave informed consent for her abortion.
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I can tell you parents are not discussing sex or sexual relationships with their kids and whatever sex ed is being taught in schools (or however it is being taught) is not being listened to by students.
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I can tell you minors are terrified of speaking to their parents about the consequences of their sexual activity. I can tell you people are incredibly, astonishingly selfish.
This all makes me more determined to be a part of changing this cultural landscape.
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If she had chosen abortion like she was pressured to do many times by her drs, I bet the majority of the people telling Sarah "well yeah aren't you glad you had that ChOiCe 🥴" would be showing her compassion, sympathy, and empathy. 1/
Parents of dead children don't deserve respect and compassion *just* when they make a decision you agree with or you think is morally or legally superior.
Additionally, for those who truly care about choice and aren't just trying to score points on Sarah:
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mothers who receive a prenatal diagnosis are *very* often
- Only given the choice of abortion
- Given the choice of abortion first and presented to them as the best option
- Not given enough info to make an informed decision about abortion or carrying to term
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In a convo on abortion, Mary brought up a paper that stated after some states enacted strict abortion laws, 60% of women with dangerous pregnancies got delayed treatment and severe complications. ajog.org/article/S0002-…
Let's break this down, because this is a bold claim 1/
The paper Mary also draws from this paper to compare women who had severe complications w/ expectant management (EM) vs induce abortion/labor induction (IA/LI) pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/34736914/
So for the OG paper, the inclusion criteria weren't bad:
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Less than 22 weeks along, w/out preterm labor, and with a medical indication for delivery (preterm premature rupture of membranes, preeclampsia with severe features, and/or vaginal bleeding), and a fetus with cardiac motion.
Not sure how vaginal bleeding is an automatic...
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So interesting.
I hear all the time places providing abortions *do other things, too.* When PL ppl counter with, abortions are most of their services or are the money-makers, we get scoffed at.
This WP article confirms everything we've been saying about abortion clinics. 1/
A "women's clinic" that provided other services + abortion *before* the TX law went into place went into overdrive, it seems, providing almost exclusively abortion services when the TX law passed:
"Before Texas enacted its abortion law, Trust Women offered other...
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"...reproductive health care in addition to abortions, including birth control, STD testing and gender-affirming care"
Now that OK has banned abortion, the clinic likely won't be able to stay open.
Why not?
Do people not need STD testing or birth control anymore?
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So this man tells me this long convoluted story with a bunch of details. About 2 sentences in, I know what his dilemma is: his girl is pregnant, and he doesn't want to be the dad. He's seeking someone to tell him, "Nope, you're not it! Must be some other dude's kid."
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Now, this may seem uncharitable. But you talk to enough people, and you get a feel for the flow of a lot of conversations. You can begin to very accurately guess the ultimate question the person doesn't want to just come right out and ask. I've been wrong. I have even noted...
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...that in an early one of these stories I shared. But most of the time, the situation is common enough, I get it right.
This was one of those times.
He is giving me this girl's estimated conception date as given by her obgyn and the dates they had sex, and says,
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#pregnancyhelpline
"Can I just trauma dump?" a sobbing girl asks me.
You know, I am actually really, really not good with feelings. I don't like to see others' pain. I am uncomfortable sitting with people in it. Because I want to fix it. I want them to be happy.
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I want them to not hurt. And when I can't DO anything to help, I just feel like a useless lump of coal. So emotional calls make me uncomfortable. But I can't tell her no, either. Like, this is my job. I just feel so bad at it sometimes.
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But anyways. We talk and her story comes out. She's pregnant. The baby's father loves her, she says, and she loves him. But he does not want the baby and has told her that he thinks she should get an abortion. But she doesn't want that, and she's not going to do it.
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This woman told me her man was trying to say he was not the baby's father. "He told me he is sure he pulls out every time, so he is trying to make it seem like he is not the factor here, but I know because he is the only man I see."
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Oooooh boy. These are always fun conversations. So we talk about pregnancy and sperm and the pullout/withdrawal method and she's like, "Yeah. Yeah, I know all this. I just needed to make sure, you know? Because he is saying all sorts of things right now, like how he has...
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...erectile problems and on and on. But I'm thinking he's trippin."
And we discuss how men sometimes freak out when they learn they might be a dad. We talk about paternity testing. She thinks he's just shocked right now, and not ready.
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