@unca_fa It may surprise you to learn, though I hope not, that I am, with rare exception, not opposed whatsoever to disagreement so long as it opens dialogue in good faith. My support for Harris is solidarity based, given the road ahead of her. I also read her record differently.
@unca_fa I think Harris is a good example of a woman who wants to create meaningful change and took the roles that put her on the path to access. She performed them in accordance with expectations, with notable exceptions, because that is necessary to travel that path successfully.
@unca_fa I have read perspectives of her performance as a DA and AG that are in line with yours, and I have also read about numerous examples that contradict that construction. I have found those more persuasive, though I dont expect to agree with every choice she has made or will make.
@unca_fa I saw an interview where she detailed some of the policy choices and/or outcomes she regretted, and would do differently if she could. I made the choice to believe her, because I didn't feel I had a good reason not to, and I want to support her. Thus, I do.
@unca_fa One meaningful change that I think would make these situations easier for all of us to navigate is any real access to accountability from our representatives in government. Warren has strong suggestions there, which was in part why she was my first pick for the nomination.
@unca_fa As with challenges large and small, I am approaching this administration with the goal of working for the best outcome possible, rather than the goal of exactly what I wish the outcome was, because its not about just me, and there is good to be had and done.
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Women: imagine that for 24 hours there were no men in the world.
No men were harmed in the creation of this hypothetical. They will return. They are safe and happy wherever they are during this brief, fictional time period.
What would change for you? What would you do that day?
If this is the part where you start drafting some TERF bullshit, don’t — and then fuck off.
Trans women are women. If you read this exercise as opportunity to be an unoriginal asshole you were never here to support any of us. Please rethink that. Elsewhere.
It’s my fifth year posing this question on Christmas Eve, and it’s a gift. A moment for women to imagine what they would do if they felt safer.
As of this posting, there are nearly 20,000 original replies:
All women living in a patriarchy carry internalized misogyny. It’s as fundamental to the social structure as communication itself, because it maps the way we interpret our community position and role, which in turn impacts how we interact with and evaluate the other people in it.
Somehow, from somewhere, every woman knows that cruelty toward other women (especially any who violate the rules of misogyny) is likely to increase your value to men. It’s a gross truth but it is reality. We know it as well as we know that refusing to play along can go badly too.
It is exceptionally difficult to retool within ourselves the thousands of ways we’ve been socialized to distrust, malign, and compete with each other, and when you characterize broad swaths of women as a behavioral monolith, you assign them intentionality but you offer no depth.
Women, imagine that for 24 hours, there were no men in the world.
No men are being harmed in the creation of this hypothetical. They will all return. They are safe and happy wherever they are during this hypothetical time period.
What would change? What would you do that day?
Men are not the only reason some women feel unsafe. Racism, classism, homophobia, transphobia, and religious persecution are all ways that society, including other women, can harm both women and men.
The difference is, women do not make men unsafe simply because they are men.
For four years now I’ve asked this question on Christmas Eve. It’s a gift, to give women a moment to imagine what they would do if they felt safer. Collectively there are more than 14,000 original replies.
Women, who just want to take a walk. Men, berating them for saying so.
Ok so I was scrolling through, trying to decide what sort of tweets I make that would be worth paying for, but that I don’t want assholes to be shielded from, and I realized that basically just leaves dunks so we’ll stick with the old model.
Me: EXCLUSIVE PICS FOR SUPER FOLLOWERS ONLY
Super follower: what the fuck these are pictures of kittens
Me: their names are Smokey and Bandit they are three months old
I want to talk about how misogyny is often framed as edgy jokes. I want to talk about how this guy is comparing battered women to dogs in an animal shelter and mocking how traumatized and easy to manipulate they are as a result. I want to talk about why men think this is funny.
I want to talk about how the internet is foaming at the mouth for this kind of content. How men dive into the replies to participate like starving sharks diving onto a steak.
I want to talk about how tossing out lazy, bottom of the barrel, vitriolic misogyny online is always done in the key of “king willing to say what we’re all thinking,” and that it’s a common part of the discourse among young men, and especially among progressive or leftist men.