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It *should* be a relationship built on trust and mutual respect. It’s not - contrary to popular belief - a means for the Dominant to rinse the sub’s bank account. That’s not Domination. It should be the sub permitting the Dominant to control their resources...
...in a responsible manner. Ensuring they have enough for their normal commitments and living expenses is the bare minimum; beyond that, a submissive knows they need to earn access to their money like they might earn an orgasm or a “good girl/boy”. In a good FinDom arrangement...
...the Dominant won’t have their lifestyle enriched at the expense of the submissive, beyond any normal fee they might ask for the responsibility of being, effectively, a financial advisor.

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Oct 16, 2021
Let's talk about... Getting started in D/s

The question I get asked most (ok apart from "How are you so damn sexy but also so humble?") is "My partner and I want to get started in D/s but we don't know how," so let's find out!

As always, these are my opinions, others may vary😉
So, if you're both interested in getting in to BDSM, here's what I suggest:

Read The New Topping Book (amzn.to/3dUSXmu) *and* The New Bottoming Book (amzn.to/3dUK2lg) by Dossie Easton. Both of you read both books, to understand your role and your partner's role.
After doing that, because you'll need the understanding those books give, ask yourselves the following questions:

- What appeals to me about BDSM?
- Why do I identify as Dom/sub?
- What do I want from my Dom/sub?
- What do I offer a Dom/sub?
Read 15 tweets
May 6, 2021
Let's talk about…
How to start talking to your partner about kink.

As usual, there are my opinions, yours may be different, there are no rules, and never, ever tug on Superman's cape.
This is one of the most common questions I get. There are a few variations; how do I ask my partner to be my Dom/sub / how do I tell them I'm into xyz / how do I tell them I want more / I'd like to talk about xyz but I'm shy/nervous…
One of the things we get used to in...
...the kinky community is that most people are pretty open-minded and you can talk about sex without embarrassment or fear of ridicule (anyone who makes you feel ashamed or wrong should be avoided).

When you're dealing with a partner, though, it can be different...
Read 13 tweets
Feb 1, 2021
Let's talk about... Dominants showing their respect & appreciation.

As usual these are my opinions, yours may be different, there is no "one true way" to do BDSM and if you see Sid, tell him.

You'll often see "Subs should do xyz for their owner..." but what about the opposite?
Some Dominants are entirely selfish, and that's their choice (arguably not a great one), but the majority appreciate their sub/s as much as their subs appreciate them. I know I do, and I know a lot of you do too. So how can we show our appreciation and respect?
Some of the more obvious ways will be things like ensuring you provide the best aftercare, praising them during/after particularly hard scenes or punishment, and acknowledging the things they do for us- not necessarily during a scene if it's not appropriate, but don't forget.
Read 8 tweets
Dec 1, 2020
Let's talk about… Submission is a gift.

I've seen this pop up a few times recently and it got me thinking.
These are my opinions; yours may vary and debate is encouraged.
"Submission is a gift" strikes me as another one of those expressions, like "the sub has all the power", that sound profound (or look good in a fancy font next to some black and white boobs) but don't stand up to scrutiny.
To recap: a sub doesn't have all the power, because it's a power exchange, not a power monopoly. The Dom has an equal amount of power, that's the whole point. Likewise, if you say submission is a gift, then you have to add that Dominance is also a gift.
Read 7 tweets
Nov 19, 2020
Let's talk about... Stalking. Specifically I'm talking about sex workers, cosplayers, Dom/mes, subs, YouTubers and anyone known thanks to social media, but the same applies to everyone.
You may get to know someone via their online/public persona. A YouTuber, a cammer, cosplayer etc, or maybe a favourite sex worker you book, or a booth girl/boy at a trade show. Maybe they talk to you, maybe they're friendly to you. That's nice, right? Sure it is.
The problem comes when people misinterpret kind behaviour for some unstated desire for them, and start pushing for personal details, or perks, or freebies or real names, phone numbers, addresses, photos and so on.
Read 20 tweets
Nov 17, 2020
Since it's an FAQ and not everyone wants to join OnlyFans...

Ladies: Would YOU like your very own - UNIQUE TO YOU - "good girl/bad girl/whatever rating" as an audio?
Want to hear me rave about your outfit or pose, or what evil thoughts I have about your body?
Step this way... Image
Audios will be just for you, and approximately two minutes long.
Guys: I've only ever seen one dick that looked good, but if you want to see if yours can change my mind then you're welcome to try. I'm hetero so I'll either be objective or degrading (please let me know what you'd prefer) but I won't be saying what I'd do to it.
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