See, most of us have a pretty keen nose for bullshit. It's a survival skill we've had to develop.
And, we can tell when questions and responses are coming from a privileged, entitled place, and are designed to somehow hurt or minimize or diminish our voices.
There is no "one size fits all" approach to be made here.
Our stories are our own. Deeply individual. And deeply personal.
You are not our therapists.
You don't get to analyze us, and find us wanting in some way because you don't like what we are saying.
And once you feel as though you are ready to talk with us - be prepared to listen some more, and learn some more.
Most of us can tell the difference between those who are and those who are not.
We have enough insecurities and anger of our own - we will not be the keepers of yours.
We have had so much taken from us, stripped from us, when it comes to our story.
If we choose to share - accept it with humility. With kindness. With care.
Believe us when we speak our truth.