Rappers, none of U have ever committed domestic violence toward me. The man who raped me when I was in my teens is long dead, outing him wouldn't be useful. I can only say to artists (and regular gentlemen alike) if you're reading this and have beaten a woman, raped someone, ...
or otherwise have abused or are in the process of abusing women, children, elders - first of all, we see U. Please seek help right away, if you're reading this and don't know where to turn, as an empath who is already overwhelmed, I will allow U to DM me and I'll find help for U.
If U have the wherewithal, talk to ur manager, a friend, a family member (one whom you have never abused) and ask them to help you. U might need counseling, therapy, medication, time to rest, time away from the public, TIME AWAY FROM SOCIAL MEDIA, time to reflect on your actions.
there are resources, so many resources for you. you can contact the local musician's union, sign up with them, they will provide health insurance, life insurance, resources and when you come back from seeking help your business of music will be straightened up. IF U HAVE CHILDREN
contact your publishing administrator, BMI, SESAC, ASCAP etc. Change all of your publishing so that it goes directly to your children. Create savings account for your children on autodeposit for digital sales, etc. MANAGERS AGENTS LABEL REPS HANDLERS if you are AWARE of abuse...
it is your DUTY TO YOUR CLIENTELE to assist them in all of the above. I'm an abolitionist myself and do not advocate police-calling; sometimes it isn't avoidable & in cases of rape, molestation, domestic violence, kidnapping, elder abuse either self-police firmly/immediately or..
there's always a chance someone who is not an abolitionist will call 12. TAKE ACTION BEFORE THINGS GET BAD ENOUGH FOR POLICE/EMERGENCY SERVICES INVOLVEMENT. help your client with their mental health issues, drug addiction(s), alcoholism, get them therapy/counseling/HELP with ...
the underlying conditions stemming from childhood trauma, etc. Handlers/Managers, if U know and don't help, you are complicit. Label owners/managers, if U know and do not help, you are complicit. Artists, if you're reading this and you are scared, ashamed, guilty, angry, upset...
don't worry, I'm not here to out you or tell ur secrets. I have my own life, my own trauma, my own abusers to deal with. No one "famous" has ever assaulted me, beaten me, raped me. Only my father is guilty of verbally, emotionally, financially and mentally abusing me since birth.
coming up where and how I came up, there were RULES in the community. NO VIOLENCE AGAINST WOMEN, CHILDREN OR ELDERS. PERIOD. (there are NO exceptions). I was taught by my brother if a woman is wilding out or trying to fight you, it's okay to hold her arms down 'til she's calm...
anything else - a slap, a chokehold, a punch, a kick, ANYTHING other than prevention, is a DIRECT VIOLATION. offenders to be punished by the community. Attacking women, children, elders in ANY way - verbally, online, physically, sexually - is against CODE and RULES of governance.
I have deep, deep pain in my heart & soul when I see or hear of or know about ANY of my Brothers acting out like this. I know it stems from deep-seeded trauma & pain from childhood. I know we come from drug-addict parents, alcoholic grandparents, even some of us are on drugs. ...
I know women can be abusers also. Same rules apply. Somehow though, while I know thousands of people personally, and have counseled/assisted hundreds, I don't know personally of any women who are abusers, have been accused of abuse. I know many who have enabled abusers. I too ...
have enabled abusers. I've assisted in misogyny and miogynoir by default. I want to publicly apologize to my Sister #Xiomara #GraceBoogie who is no longer on twitter. Not one but two of the Brothers in our community attacked her online, and I did/said nothing. I am deeply sorry.
I want to publicly apologize for representing music and artists with poisonous content. If you're unaware I did represent at one time or another, an assortment of rappers who were actively pimping. HOWEVER I always checked ages of sex workers, never had any underage incident EVER
In time I spent on trips with sex workers or having them at the office or by default them being present when I worked with their pimp(s), I often helped them set up their side businesses or gather knowledge/skills to do a legal side hustle. I *ALWAYS* checked for signs of abuse.
I count a lot of sex workers as my friends and Sisters. I would never work with any man, for any amount of money, unless his household and/or stable was comfortable, happy, supported, supportive, of age, with confirmation that there was no beating/abusing/gorilla pimping. ...
ONE time, ONCE, when I worked with an entire record label of pimps, when everyone had all their workers in the office (for some reason) there was a young lady who looked ... too young. I asked her in front of her P.I. and everyone if she could come help me fix my hair/makeup. ...
Once we were alone in the bathroom (no one thought anything of it!) I asked her if she was okay. She said she was doing great. she had a nice smile, was clearly happy, no signs of bruises or anything untoward. I asked her if she was 18 (in California 18 is an adult). She said ...
she had just turned 22 and showed me her ID (visit to bathroom, makeup, hair, etc. requires everyone to bring their pocketbook). It all checked out and she told me that she entered "the life" as an underaged/child trafficked victim but that she was now healthy, happy & CHOOSING.
if she had been 17. if i'd seen the shadow of a bruise. if once in close/private quarters she'd cried or seemed afraid. if she said she was doing okay, but wanted to get out of "the life"? I would've held her hand, walked out past all the pimps and record label people and SWs...
and taken her to help. an underground organization, a doctor, a hospital, a friendly fellow SW, anywhere to help her be safe is where we would have gone. And NOT ONE OF THEM would have said or done anything to stop ME from "saving a hoe". That's the respect I've earned & keep...
I don't discern between "legal" & "illegal". As I stated I am an abolitionist. I don't want anyone to be in prison I want prisons destroyed along with the false white "supremacy" that exists to shackle ALL of us in some way, to limit ALL of our freedoms. IN CLOSING, *SEEK HELP*.
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