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Anthony Bradley Profile picture
@drantbradley
Sep 5, 2020 • 4 tweets • 2 min read • Read on X
Peter Leithart’s Institute is having a conversation about why guys like John Piper, Matt Chandler, etc. beat up on men for women’s ears in sermons. They’re kind’a anti-men. Complementarian Reformed churches shame men to reach women. theopolisinstitute.com/conversations/…
Here’s why: Complementarians are matrilineal. Sermons & staffing exist to meet the needs of mothers. Any church with a youth pastor is matrilineal. His job is to assist mothers(not fathers) with the spiritual nurture of teens. Sunday is for mothers. mereorthodoxy.com/evangelicals-m…
The irony, suggests Renn, is that Reformed guys complain about young guys reading Jordan Peterson, listening to Rogan, etc. but they get *nothing* but shame from Calvinist pulpits while women’s sins are never addressed. In the Reformed world, sin=men & grace=women. Is Renn wrong?
I think at some point someone got the message wrong: the point of sermons is to make men feel worthless, dark, and terrible so they’ll embrace the gospel. Emasculation every week, “guys you suck, be better.” Even their masculinity books are written to shame men. I don’t get it.🤷🏾‍♂️

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Evangelicals don't have an elite problem. They have a formation problem. They raise bubble-wrapped cubicle boys and then complain about them later becoming passive men. Raised for passivity, destined for people-pleasing. Image
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🧵New research just dropped and it challenges almost everything the culture wants you to believe about boys who grow up with violent fathers. Image
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We tell teenage boys: "Volunteer. Join that club. Lead that project. It'll look great on your college application." This is one of the most damaging pieces of advice we can give them. It's creating a generation of young men who are accomplished and adrift. Here's why: 🧵 Image
This advice instrumentalizes virtue. It turns service, leadership, and hard work into mere tools for personal gain (careerism). The goal is no longer the good work itself, but the line it adds to a resume. This creates a deep and hollow "purpose-void."
True masculine virtue isn't found in curating a perfect resume. It's found in becoming a man who confronts chaos and solves problems. The meaning comes from the work itself—the intrinsic good of bringing order and overcoming challenges, not the narcissistic validation it brings.
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Aug 10, 2025
Karen Horney has been my biggest influence in psychology.
She explained why “nice guys” burn out, why some become tyrants, and why others vanish into isolation. All of it comes from the same root. A quick guide 🧵 Image
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Once you get this, people’s behavior starts making scary sense.
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Aug 6, 2025
I’m old. At my church growing up, youth ministry was sex-segregated and led by the fathers (mostly in suits). Only the youth choir and Sunday School were co-ed. I didn’t see the wisdom in that—until I wrote my book on fatherhood. Here’s why, backed by research: Image
Black boys in America don’t just need mentors.
They thrive socially, economically, spiritually, etc. with deeply invested older Black men—especially fathers—who build trust with their family, speak into their identity, and walk with them as extended family.
A recent study found that Black youth don’t just benefit from one-on-one mentorship.
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• operate like extended family
• stay for the long haul
• and model what manhood looks like
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Aug 1, 2025
We raised GenZ/GenAlpha boys to be sweet, self-effacing "nice guys" that all the moms like. Now they’re terrified of rejection, addicted to video games, paralyzed by fear--a reaction again the narcissism of millennials. Let me explain how we created a generation of doormats. Image
To fix “toxic masculinity,” we overcorrected.
We taught boys:
– never to take up space
– never to be assertive
– never to want anything strongly
– always to be soft, sensitive, agreeable
Now we have 20-year-olds who won't ask girls out or grow up. Don't blame video games.
What we called “humility” was actually training in self-erasure. What we called “niceness” was often neurotic people-pleasing. We taught boys that being liked by everyone is the highest good. Especially by women and teachers.
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