It helps for building the habit if you make an unobtrusive but distinct gesture every time you notice it.
One common form of rationalization for me is what I call "telling stories", where I'm justifying a feeling or position I'm holding to some (often imagined, sometimes in-person) audience.
This feels notably different from simply explaining what/why I'm feeling or what I think.
In the GTF (if we get there), we'll regularly do mental operations that take thousands of symbols.
We'll think it is utterly bizarre and horrifying that the biological bootloader beings (us) could only only do mental operations on ~4 symbols at a time.
How many thoughts are we not able to think, because they would require consciously holding in mind the specific relationships between just _10_ concepts, where you can't do it by chunking because the way each concept relates to the others depends all the rest?
If there are ways for people to quietly opt out of the defaults, they don't have to rebel against those norms to create space for themselves to live lives that work for them.
I could totally imagine that poly works badly for most people society would be better off if it were generally socially discouraged.
But some people are obviously-to-me very dispoistionally poly—it actually does work better for them.
I consider myself to "do philosophy", though what I mean by that has very little to do with academic philosophy or the "great philosophers" who I agree are mostly bad (with a few exceptions), except as examples of how different one’s worldview can be from what I take for granted.
By "philosophy" I mean "reflecting on the abstractions we use to make sense of and act in the world."
Philosophy is the domain that involves reflecting _on_ abstractions, reasoning about whether and where a particular abstraction is correct or useful, or whether and where a different abstraction would be better, etc.
The central event of the Christian religion is the crucifixion (and subsequent resurrection).
Presumably, it was not part of the actual Jesus of Nazareth's plan to be captured and crucified.
It's kind of crazy that the defining theological feature of Christianity (Christ dying for humanity's sins) is a recon of the actual Jesus's teachings, to address the cognitive dissonance of his execution.
But not only was that retcon apparently effective for resolving the cognitive dissonance of the purported messiah dying without, apparently, having ushered in the new age, it actually made the whole thing work!
Christianity is much stronger as a meme because of the crucifixion.