If you want to do something nice for my (belated) birthday, the number one thing you can do is suggest people who I might want to date.
I’m planning *not* to prioritize active dating until after the singularity.
I’m sad that I didn’t succeed at finding a life partner before crunch time started in earnest, but given my estimates of the tradeoffs involved, it’s not worth it for me to spend my agency on it now.
But even so, I still want some kind of emotionally-intimate relationship with someone I like and respect. If you introduce me to someone I end up dating semi-seriously for a year, that would be an enormous boon to my life.
I care about some impacts of meditation more than others (and for some I might want to specifically avoid them, or move in the opposite direction), and it would be helpful to have some kind of guide of the impacts that different ways that different practices change the mind.
I want to try 5 to 10 different meditation techniques to get a sense of what kind of effect each one has on me, and generally get a good sense of the full landscape of different kinds of meditation.
Which techniques should I try?
I think I should have treated learning both math and meditation as exploration.
Instead of picking something I want to learn and grinding on it, I should have tried a lot of different things, and then doubled down on the ones that I found most fun / engaging / interesting.
Given that realization, I'd like to try a bunch of different meditation techniques, now!
All this sounds basically right to me, and, comports with my own (not yet published) personal ethics, modulo that (to speak in the language Scott is using here, which is not my usual language) we TOTALLY have implicit obligations to animals.
This was fascinating (and slightly horrifying). I'd love to read more accounts of the sociological-economic dynamics of "worlds" that I have little exposure to.
"Feminine norms" are at least partially rooted in female psychology, but they're also just an adaption to being on the more-in-demand side of a competitive market with non-fixed supply, that thrives on impulsivity.
The non-fixed supply and then impulsivity are both important to get feminine norms.
Landlords are on the more-in-demand side of their markets, but they respond to that by charging higher rents. That's not enough to create feminine norms.
It helps for building the habit if you make an unobtrusive but distinct gesture every time you notice it.
One common form of rationalization for me is what I call "telling stories", where I'm justifying a feeling or position I'm holding to some (often imagined, sometimes in-person) audience.
This feels notably different from simply explaining what/why I'm feeling or what I think.