Why is beautiful conduct to parents so closely tied to Pure Monotheistic Worship in the Quran?
God says : Your Lord has commanded that you should worship none but Him, and that you be kind to your parents (Quran 17:23)
It’s the realization that God doesn’t expect us to be perfect. He expects us to be grateful. This is Ultimate Mercy from Him, for He is Perfect, Exalted above all deficiency, Magnified beyond measure, Holy and Sanctified. He deserves perfection. Instead, he commands to Ihsān.
Parents weren’t perfect, but they cared.
If we don’t want God to take us to account based on “perfection”, but on the goodness of our intentions & recognition of our deficiencies, then let us not set perfection as a condition for treating our parents with mercy and respect.
Parents, by nature, and especially mothers, love their children in a way that mimics Divine Mercy. Rasūlullāh explained this inexplicable concept to the Companions by making an illustrative analogy to a mother’s love.
The Quran exhorts children to uphold their parents rights, and not vice versa, for this very reason — on the assumption that you don’t need to tell a parent to love and care of their kids any more than you need to tell them to breath. Its a natural human instinct.
It is a natural human instinct, the loss of which is a sign of a deranged and diseased nature. Thus, parents who abuse their children, neglect them, or fail to rear them in a wholesome way have not just breached a Law of God, they have breached a Law of Creation. Quran 7:156
It is said about verse (28:7) in which God inspired the mother of Moses to nurse her child, that a special meaning must be intended in the verse, as every mother intuitively feels the urge to nurse her child. Rather, God willed to place immense spiritual increase in her milk...
Rather, God willed to place immense spiritual increase in her milk by rendering her act one of worship to Him, above and beyond her primal human instinct. Through this blessing, it is said that baby Moses was satiated by the suckling for several days; an extraordinary phenomenon
If we hope to gain spiritual increase in our lives, then let us be kind to our parents. Let us nurse them, as they did us, by the blessing of the Divine Command — that God may overlook our faults and take us to account gently, not by the measure of unattainable perfection.
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On the morning commute, my daughter asked to review the structure of Arabic verbs. She said,
الفعل المضارع مرفوع أليس كذلك؟
Present tense is marfū’, right?
I said, “Yes. It’s معرب (grammatically variable), as opposed to the past tense…
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“…which is مبني (grammatically inherent).” I gave her some examples, then said,
“Do you see the miracle of the Arabic language? It mirrors reality. Can we change the past — no, but we can change the present.”
In her intelligence, she said, “Mama, what about فعل الأمر ?
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I said, “The command tense is also مبني (inherent) but appears in different forms. Do you see now, my love, why Allāh chose the Arabic language for the Quran? It mirrors Reality.”
Meanwhile, she was eating breakfast. She said, شبعتُ (I am satiated). We said the masnun du’ā’.
A common sufi metaphor, in reference to the ‘masculine’ trait of generous sovereignty & the feminine trait of humble receptivity. All true believers (male & female), in relation to God, exhibit the ‘female principle’.
…but rather an expression of the relationship with the Divine in it being so beyond words that only the closest of human relationships could approximate it to the limits of the rational mind. Tasawwuf is supra-rational. Spiritual intelligence is the most sophisticated of all…
People are always enemies of what they don’t know, finding more comfort in denial than learning. Such is the curse of ignorance. Tasawwuf is the most courageous of all form of knowledge. The mind can only take one so far. Only cowards limit themselves to it. Those who know, know.
One of the most devalued tools of tarbiya is the spiritual harnessing of family fun.
Children, in their relationships with others, are deeply affected by non-rational influences...
This makes them both vulnerable and impressionable, in heightened sensitivity to their caregivers, who have only to exert the most positive emotions they can conjure to create a loving, lasting bond, stiched in time with the thread of beautiful memories.
The main objective of social media is to use, even manipulate, the evocative to *influence* the ‘public customer’.
That’s why the *rational* hardly has a place in the digital jungle.
There is a fundamental rational problem with any sort of pontification on social media. It’s mutlaq, meaning mentioned ‘in the general’, as a principle, despite it coming from the posters *personal* vantage.
This creates many problems….
1 The illusion of understanding. The reader takes the ‘principle’ and applies it in their mind wherever they see fit and in accordance to their (non-expert) conceptualization of it, when, in reality, they’re processing it through the ego, in accordance to their whims….
2 The illusion of ownership. “Liking” something has implications associated with it, namely that one has grasped the full ramifications of it and can transition it from theory to application. Even among scholarship, it’s an advanced skill. Laymen don’t even have basic skills…
About now, you’re all aware that I’m no fan of social media. I opened an Insta account last year and, well, from ‘how it started’ to ‘how it’s going’…let’s just say that I have a folder entitled #messed_up. On occasion, I’ll share some “goodies”…
Our first exhibit is the ~80% of posts classifying women based on their “mindset” toward men as the determining factor of their “value”. How droll. As women, we’re supposed to be brainwashed into thinking that our intrinsic value is completely dependent on how we attract men?
Do pardon me. When a person’s value is made subservient to another’s actions, we have a word for that in English; it’s called slavery. The intrinsic human value of a woman is exactly as that of a man, because it’s fully dependent on how she relates to God, her (and his) Creator…
1 in 6 U.S. children aged 2–8 years (17.4%) had a diagnosed mental, behavioral, or developmental disorder.
So young. Look at the increase over age bracket.
Reminds me of an incident with my daughter when she was 4 and had observed…
a group of (Muslim) teenagers. She was perplexed by their behavior and asked me one of the most insightful questions I’ve been asked by anyone, including adults.
“Mama, aren’t people supposed to get better when they’re older?”
I smiled, took her into my arms and said…
“Yes. They are.”
Entirety satisfied, she cheerfully jumped off my lap and went to play, and I just stood there, amazed by her intellect and simultaneously frightened because I knew that children, most of them, even Muslims, were not “getting better when they’re older”…