1/ I just watched 'The Social Dilemma' on Netflix & also started reading 'Calling Bullshit' some days ago. Everybody should watch the film, understand how our 'attention is being extracted', how dangerous this can be and think about how we can change things...
2/ "..never before in history have 50 designers 20-35 yr-old white guys in California made decisions that have an impact on 2 billion people...who will have thoughts that they didn't intend to have because a designer at Google said, "This is how notifications work on that screen
3/ ..that you wake up to in the morning." So do I realize that I am in very real danger of not being myself any more, of not thinking my own thoughts? That the machine stands to gain from "addiction, polarization, radicalization, outragification, vanitification.."
4/ "A magician shows you a card trick
and says, "Pick a card, any card." What you don't realize
was that they've done a set-up, so you pick the card
they want you to pick. And that's how Facebook works.
Facebook sits there and says,
5/ "Hey, you pick your friends. You pick the links that you follow."..that's all nonsense. It's just like the magician. FB is in charge of your news feed. We all simply are operating on a different set of facts. When that happens at scale, you're no longer able to reckon with ...
6/ or even consume information that contradicts with that world view that you've created. That means we aren't actually being objective, constructive individuals. And then you look over at the other side, and you start to think, "How can those people be so stupid?
7/ Look at all of this information that I'm constantly seeing. How are they not seeing that same information?"
"They're not seeing that same information."
So do we realize we are in echo chambers and who gains from keeping us in these echo chambers?
8/ The film suggests various things to address the issue e.g. regulation like taxing companies on the data assets
that they have. Give them a fiscal reason to not acquire every piece of data on the planet. That may help, but then politicians very much want to use these tools..
9/ "If we don't agree on what is true or that there is such a thing as truth, we're toast. This is the problem
beneath other problems because if we can't agree on what's true, then we can't navigate out of any of our problems.", the film says, but I don't agree...
10/ While we are occupied with trying to figure out 'what the truth is', politicians & big business will accelerate polarization & radicalization. For us to be our selves, we need think simply & clearly...we need to understand if something is divisive & serves vested interests...
11/ "If it seems like it's something designed to really push your emotional buttons", be very suspicious. If we remain 'our selves', we will survive & buy ourselves time to 'call bullshit' & figure out the truth. Even the specific truth though is often not important..
12/ Does leading a rich life require us to know the facts of where 'Rama was born', 'How SSR died' etc.? Yes, the truth about certain things needs to be known & we cannot be naive... but are we being manipulated into becoming 'the crowd' by this so called 'search for truth'?
1/ Our experience of time as a thing is a modern phenomenon..
Each hour or week or year is like a container being carried on a conveyor belt, which we must fill as it passes, if we're to feel that we're making good use of our time.
2/ When there are too many activities to fit comfortably into the containers, we feel unpleasantly busy; when there are too few, we feel bored. If we keep pace with the passing containers, we congratulate ourselves for 'staying on top of things...
3/ and feel like we're justifying our existence; if we let too many pass by unfilled, we feel we've wasted them. If we use containers labelled 'work time' for leisure, our employer may get irritated (he paid for those containers- they belong to him!)
1/ An ongoing thread- MUSINGS ON THE PATH. Each tweet is independent. No observation is original.
It is personal agendas that limit us and cause us to suffer. Imagine living without a personal agenda. Imagine living always for a larger cause/ vision/ benefit of others.
2/ Clouded & compulsive thinking cause our problems. Only through awareness can we make the mind clear. A good place to start is to become aware of the breath & sensations in the body.
1/ Little boy scared of making friends at his birthday party hides under a table. Mom gives him company there. Then helps him see the funny feelings in his tummy as as a sign of exciting things to come & names them as butterflies...
2/ ... which intrigues the kid. She points out that they can't sit under the table forever & suggests little steps. He comes out & starts taking little steps!
3/ this reminded me of @LFeldmanBarrett explaining how interoceptive sensations have to be associated with concepts to form emotions.... I understood her point better, watching this sequence...and what a powerful and empowering way to alter the emotion here!
From 'The Lazy Man's Guide to Enlightenment' by Thaddeus Golas
1/ The basic function of each being is expanding and contracting. Expanded beings are permeative;
contracted beings are dense and impermeative.
2/ Therefore each of us, alone or in combination, may
appear as space, energy, or mass, depending on the ratio of expansion to contraction chosen, & what
kind of vibrations each of us expresses by alternating expansion and contraction. Each being controls
his own vibrations.
3/ A completely expanded being is space. Since expansion is permeative, we can be in the "same space"
with one or more other expanded beings. In fact, it is possible for all the entities in the universe to be
one space.
1/ I know quite a few women (age 24-45) in marriages where their needs are not met. Most do not have the courage to voice their needs & put down non-negotiables. Are parents largely responsible for not modelling/ equipping the ability to handle conflict? @docbhooshan
2/ Consideration for others' needs to be balanced with the Courage to express one's own needs. Women (in India especially) are conditioned to be more considerate than courageous on this front.
Even when courage is present, awareness of one's emotions & needs requires skill.
3/ And even when courage is there, and one is clearly aware of one's needs, there is a question of strategy and skill in articulating one's requirements, influencing the other, knowing what cards you can play (soft and hard).... negotiation is not a bad word- we should teach this
1/ I have been thinking about this comment of @docbhooshan in a @Genwise_ adda on developing socio-emotional maturity in children. It made sense intuitively but I did not fully understand why not being able to give a specific word for an emotion would ‘freeze’ someone.
2/ Some things are becoming clearer as I read about the topic. A child who clubs irritated, frustrated & annoyed- as ‘angry’, can’t acknowledge what they are going through and their emotions may escalate to ‘enraged’ and they may end up beating another child or cry hysterically
3/ A granular emotional vocabulary also helps us to perceive others’ emotions more accurately. Looking at this image though I realized how poor my current vocabulary is. In fact I recently confused indigestion (a sensation) for feeling stressed about work.