Last night, someone tagged me in a blog written about best books for each #Enneagram type. I liked it better than I thought I would. It was good Enneagram entertainment.
And I've not seen so many mistypings in my 20 years of working with the #Enneagram and it has something to do with the entertainment piece and people typing people based on outside-in Enneagram. Don't go to entertainment for good Enneagram info. Go to it for entertainment.
There's good Enneagram info out there. This is good as there was little out there when I started. I'm a big fan of solid lineage. I chose Helen Palmer as my teacher as she's grounded in lineage & emphasized psycho-spiritual integration. The @enneaworld is grounded in lineage
The Enneagram was always (and originally taught) as a tool for psycho-spiritual integration. Enneagram INFORMATION is focused on the psychological structure of your type. If you learn it well, it's a stellar starting point. (And it's still just a starting point).
#Enneagram transformation takes a lifetime. The more you're working with transformation, the less you're focusing on the Enneagram. The greater focus is cultivating RECEPTIVE spiritual presence. Spirituality isn't about religion (although good religion can be supportive).
Spiritual presence is connecting to shared ultimate values relating to meaning. Compassion. Inner knowing. Shared vulnerability of being human. Surrender to something more expansive than our small self. Your type is your obstacle to the spiritual values. But it's not all of you.
The surprising moment of spiritual connection can't be forced...it's a sort of happy accident. Spiritual PRACTICE makes you accident prone.
And after the ecstasy of spiritual connection, it WILL go away. It's that elusive. Life will hit you. But you'll remember it. (Helen used to say the moment she'd come out of a spiritual experience, she'd sometimes doubt it like a good 6. You'll always have your type.
I look at it this way...my type is my humbler. It'swhat gets my ass in my chair to do spiritual practice. After all these years, it's still there. But my spiritual practice is too. The memory of spiritual experience doesn't go away. It lives in me & is there when I work w/clients
When you sit in spiritual practice, trust me...if you're a 4, your attention WILL go to what's missing. It will make you anxious to sit. Keep practicing. Your longing will be your portal of entry into the spiritual experience of equanimity.
My attention always goes to my mental habit of planning. When I notice it, it's my meditation bell back to spiritual presence & the spiritual experience of constancy and Holy Work. It's how it works. Your Enneagram vice IS the energetic contraction that also carries your virtue.
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Boundaries, when set with grounded, kind intention, are what Dan Siegel calls a M-We practice. (Me + We). If they’re not deeply rooted in the awareness of our shared humanity or “M-We,” they’re reactionary and intransigent. They can get too self-focused, precious and brittle. 1/
M-We boundaries are both rooted and gentle like a strong, but flexible, swaying willow tree that can withstand a storm or a strong wind. They have a quality of generosity not only to YOUR wisest self but also to the best in the other. 2/
If you indulge yours OR another’s inferior qualities by NOT setting boundaries, neither of you grows and the relationship gets tangled in resentment & passive aggressiveness. A M-We boundary is a generous boundary as you’re placing needed limits on BOTH of you. 3/
Word. When we feel something in our body, it’s not about objective truth. It’s our body’s response to an experience which is CONDITIONED by culture, type, family etc. ie. An 8s gut instinct is partial & grounded inTHEIR truth. Instinct is PART of the story. Not the whole story 1/
The body houses a lifetime of conditioning. If our family, religion, culture, news source trains us to judge/fear/disdain another group/race by showing only negative images, our body WILL respond instinctually if we see that person on the street. It will sense a threat. 2/
The body is just one source of knowing and as powerful as it is, if we reduce it to the one objective truth, we’re leaving out discernment and critical thinking. Bodies don’t challenge bias. They may be confirming it. 3/
We aren't responsible for what people project onto us. We're impacted by it, it may cause suffering, but we're not responsible for the assumptions made about us. 1/
We ARE responsible for what we project onto people and groups. They're not. It impacts them, it may cause them suffering, they may speak out about it, but they are not responsible for our projections and assumptions. 2/
Hard conversations can bust projections IF both parties are receptive to receiving the other AS THEY ARE TO THEMSELVES. One person being receptive helps. Both being receptive is better. It's NOT about agreemnt or being right. It's abt courage to see/hear even when it's hard.3/