A *mass abduction* of children and *mass false accusations* against mothers are being planned and encouraged by men’s rights and fathers’ rights Facebook group “Domestic Violence Against Men” @DVAgainstMen (Sydney, Australia). See facebook.com/DomesticViolen…@nswpolice
Fathers’ rights groups / #MRAs privilege fathers’ contact with children over children’s safety. Try to discredit victims of violence, telling lies about false allegations. Try to protect perpetrators of domestic and family violence. xyonline.net/sites/xyonline…
This is far from the first time men's rights and fathers' rights groups have encouraged or undertaken criminal activities. The Men’s Rights Agency, an Australian MRA group, was exposed in 1996.
MRAs: Men’s Rights Agency, an Australian MRA group, exposed in 1996. Hired private investigators to track down members’ spouses hiding in DV refuges, a coordinator was a violent gun runner & drug dealer, and had contact with man who then killed his family. xyonline.net/sites/xyonline…
This is also not the first time men's rights activists have encouraged, or themselves made, *mass false accusations* of violence. In 2013, MRAs flooded a Los Angeles college's sexual assault reporting system with false rapes. theverge.com/2013/12/19/522…
The irony that MRAs claim that women's false allegations of DV or rape are common, while themselves encouraging or making false allegations, could not be richer.
The problem of focusing on what women can do to avoid becoming rape victims
Responses to my tweets on men’s sexual violence against women, particularly by men, often focus on what women can do to avoid or escape this violence. There are 5 problems with this:
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1) Women are told throughout their lives what to do to try to avoid rape. 2) If this is *all* we do, this is victim-blaming. 3) Women already use a whole range of strategies to try to lessen their risk. 4) This focus does nothing to hold perpetrators to account.
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5) Perhaps most importantly of all, focusing on what potential victims of sexual violence can do to lessen their risk does nothing to *prevent violence perpetration in the first place*.
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Men and violence against women: Some men think that if they themselves are not perpetrating domestic or sexual violence against women, the problem has nothing to do with them. But it does. A consistent predictor of men’s use of domestic and sexual violence is...
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A consistent predictor of men’s use of domestic and sexual violence is their *perception of peer support*: the extent to which they think that the men around them condone, support, and themselves use violence against women.
Male peer support is a key risk factor for perpetration.
One key reason many men don’t recognise our roles in preventing and reducing rape is that we don't realise that most rapes are by men known to the victim, in a familiar location, without serious physical injury, and that rapes are common. Many men have a mistaken idea of rape
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Men often imagine some crazed guy, in a park, violently raping a passing woman.
Men often don’t think of what’s far more common:
A man pressuring his date into sex.
A man expecting that his wife will have sex whenever he wants to.
A man taking advantage of a drunk woman. Etc.
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Men, and to a lesser extent women, often believe, mistakenly, that most rapes are by strangers, in a public place, & involving severe physical force, contributing to the neglect of the reality of sexual violence and to victim-blaming.
Report, p. 54: ncas.anrows.org.au/wp-content/upl…
Violence and gender: Men’s rights advocates (MRAs) like to cherrypick findings that show or seem to show that domestic violence against men is more common than DV against women. The latest example comes from a multi-country study of university staff’s experience of violence.
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MRAs claim the study shows more men than women have experienced physical domestic violence.
Two problems: 1) The study *is not* about DV. All the questions ask about violence by someone connected with the institution – other staff or students - not about intimate partners 2/5
2) The study shows that women suffer *more* violence than men. Women suffer more violence overall, and more psychological violence, economic violence, sexual violence, and sexual harassment. See the table, p. 33
The full report is here: 3/5 zenodo.org/records/754022…
Fostering Healthy Masculinities among Men and Boys
First, let’s define ‘masculinity’: The socially learnt roles, behaviours, and attributes that are seen as appropriate for boys and men in a given society.
There are diverse versions of masculinity in different contexts.
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But in many contexts, masculinity is defined in terms of dominance over women, sexual entitlement, homophobia, aggression, rigid stoicism, etc.
There are various terms for this form of masculinity: Hegemonic. Sexist. Traditional. Toxic. Patriarchal. I’ll go with the last of these
There are three compelling rationales for critical attention to masculinities 1) Patriarchal forms of masculinity are implicated in a series of social problems: public violence, sexual and reproductive health, suicide, alcohol & drug use, mental health, occupational injuries, etc
Sex and housework: In heterosexual couples with children, when women do more of the household labour than men, they have lower sexual desire, for two reasons: 1) they are more likely to see their partners as dependent on them, and 2) they see the division of labour as unfair
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Implications: Women's sexual desire is constrained by gender inequities. Low desire in women is not located in women, their bodies or minds. Instead, it is a symptom of a broader problem, of inequalities between men and women, including in the division of household labour.
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So if you are a man with a female partner, alongside fairness, decency and respect, here is another reason to share fairly the domestic work and care.
See a journalistic summary of the new study here:
See the academic paper here: https://t.co/8qiTFh3pEUpsypost.org/2022/12/when-w… link.springer.com/content/pdf/10…