Today is the yahrzeit of both my father and my great-great-grandfather.
Even before Covid, I feel like in this time and place saying kaddish without a minyan is an important and valid thing to do.
I get the value to requiring mourning to be something we do in community. I think it's a good thing. But I cannot possibly get myself physically into the presence of a minyan right now. Probably not even virtually.
Saying kaddish without a minyan makes me feel closer to my community than not saying it at all. Speaking the words helps me feel Am Yisrael around me. It helps me know that I am not alone in feeling the loss of my parent and my ancestors.
Would having 9 other people around me be better? Heck yes. Absolutely. I would *much* rather have that. But something is better than nothing.
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If there is any other people who know what it is like to be a nation of refugees, it's Jews. 75 years ago European Imperialists did what they do best - pitted two peoples that they had themselves driven to desperation against each other. We don't have to play that game.
I believe this, fully. I believe that inevitably, eventually, we will see that we have more in common than we have dividing us. That we can sit together as brothers. That there is literally nothing to do but just stop.
There's a lot in this thread that I think is true, but the parts that cut me are the acknowledgement that none of the decisions being made, none of the reporting on events is objective. There is no objectivity possible when everyone is reacting from trauma.
Jewish joy:
When it's time to leave Simchat Torah and your toddler begs to stay a little longer, and then says "I miss synagogue" from the back seat on the way home.
Jewish joy:
Watching a gaggle of kids in the middle of an unrolled scroll rush around finding where each book starts, and recognizing a word here and there, and trying to convince each other they found an imperfect letter.
Jewish joy:
Making a friend at Erev Rosh Hashanah dinner and running into them again on the way into Simchat Torah.
I love @LizShayne's piece on a neurodivergent Jonah - an understanding of his character that seems obvious to me - and I want to share a bit of Yom Kippur learning I received this year that harmonizes with her article:
We don't get much in the book of Jonah itself about who Jonah is, but one thing we do get is his name - Yona ben Amitai. Literally translated, "Jonah, child of my truth". The obvious meaning, of course, is that Jonah's dad was named Amitai, no big deal.
But because this is Jewish scripture, and we can always dig deeper, what if it's also a statement of who Jonah is, the essence of his nature? Truth is, after all, what Jonah is most fixated on. What has actually happened. What will actually happen. The facts on the ground.
Augustine of Hippo codified as doctrine that mankind is *innately* evil because of inherited sin, and there's not a single damn thing we can do about it. That idea wasn't normative even with Christianity until around the 4th century CE, and isn't normative in other cultures.
It persists as normative in Christian cultures, though, even when those cultures reject theology and define themselves as secular, post-religiously rational thinkers. You can see this in the rejection of evidence to preserve the normative idea.
There's been a lot of noise in my mentions recently around a couple of comments from people saying that Christianity is all about love and Judaism isn't, and it's got me thinking that sometimes we undermine some great things about Judaism in the process of countering anti-Judaism
Like, the gut level response is to counter things like "Christianity is all about love and Judaism is not" by saying "nuh uh, OF COURSE we're all about love" And that's not wrong, love of your neighbor/fellow humans is *very* central to Judaism. But also ...
There *are* specific mitzvot around *not* loving the oppressor, the enticer to idolatry, the pursuer-with-harmful-intent. Judaism very much does *not* say that loving *everyone*, equally and unconditionally, is a value. And that's a good thing.
The reason Poe's Law works is that for most Americans, "Nazi", and by extension "Hitler", just means "enemy". The actual ideology of nazism and the social context in which it arose as a reactionary movement are of less importance, or inconsequential altogether.
It's a direct result of the way 20th century history is taught - the focus is on the US winning WWII against the Bad Guys - the Nazis. The Holocaust is certainly taught, but primarily as a sort of hyperbolized "they were SO MEAN, like bad guys are" way.
The economic and social context in which Nazism arose and the power dynamics of ethnic/social groups in Germany isn't taught at all. The specific racialized hatred of Nazism is taught as "they hated freedom", or a generic "they didn't like people who were Different"