Trans women are just so darned patriarchal that every patriarchal institution wants to destroy us.
Yep, that take makes total sense.
Trans women's existence defies and ultimately breaks patriarchy. Not destroys it, but shows the foundation of lies it's built upon. Just the fact of being seen as rejecting manhood and voluntarily entering womanhood is transgressive and a violation of patriarchal norms.
So the backlash we get is staggering, from cis men, from cis women, from other trans people. So many people want us to be evil, violent, rapist, murderers, monsters, an explanation to prove we're outside womanhood and that who we are is mired in patriarchy's worst excesses.
But that proof doesn't exist. Individual trans women doing horrible things is meaningless in this regard, as individual cis women do the same and worse. Despite repeated claims, the Dhejne "Swedish Study" doesn't show any kind of "male pattern criminality." This is why we're lied
about constantly, because our real life existence just doesn't live up to the mythology they've constructed around us. Trans women do not enforce patriarchal norms through displays of conventional femininity, partly because that's utter nonsense and trans women don't have that
power, but also because trans women have just as diverse gender presentation as cis women. Some love dresses and skirts and makeup and heels and some love jeans and boots and punk aesthetic and some love being butch and some love being femme and all of that is okay. It's fine.
But dang it'd sure be nice if people stopped trying to use their assumptions about who we are because they can't imagine why a cis man would want to be a woman.
The answer is that cis men don't want to be women. Whatever her gender prior to transition, trans women aren't cis men
Perhaps instead of wondering why a cis man would want to transition, ask what a cis girl would do if someone tried to force her, through abuse and indoctrination every day of her life to be a boy until she can't take it anymore and says "no more." That's what life is like for
many trans women. Admittedly everyone has different experiences and they don't fall out the same way, but as a generalization just imagine what that could be like.
Cis people have it all backwards, as do a lot of trans people, when talking about us.
Anyway, I'm gonna go back to the totally patriarchal thing for a woman to do and be as gay as I want and have girlfriends.
Also, I'm not a woman, I'm a femme girl.
Also not everyone I date or will date is or will be a girl or a woman.
BTW, please don't reverse this thread and apply that to trans men and trans mascs. Trans men don't uphold patriarchy by being trans men. Trans men and trans mascs are not trans women's and trans feminine people's polar opposites.
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So trans people are stepping up to say zebirdbrain isn't transphobic. But...both of these guys are guys, and she liked transmisogynist tweets attacking trans women. Why do trans guys get to litigate what counts as transmisogyny?
This is why people flattening transmisogyny into transphobia is bad, we get nonsense like this where men are elevated as the deciders of what counts as bigotry against women.
The current backlash against trans people and our human rights is on a large scale similar to the very hostile and sometimes violent reactions individuals have had to me asserting boundaries about being trans or asking for better less discriminatory treatment.
Like this has always been present to some degree on many different scales and for decades medicines purpose was to prevent us from being us and when they started allowing us to be us they did so in the most restrictive ways they could. We've never not been facing genocide.
And even more marginalized groups of trans people have faced more explicit violence especially at the intersection of racism and transmisogyny. Many of us have Said for years that this meets to stop that it will lead to much worse. I wish we've been listened to.
One of the (not the only or biggest) reasons I moved a thousand miles is to get more FFS covered than Washington was willing to do.
can't count how many misapprehensions I've seen from people about why we get surgeries. Like I've seen needing bottom surgery compared to wanting to lose weight due to internalized fatphobia and uh that's not it at all.
The maleness assigned to trans women, whether labeled explicitly or such or "AMAB" used as a very transparent fig leaf isn't about biology or anatomy or socialization or privilege but an ontologically evil state trans women and transfems are expected to eternally atone for.
Calling us male is an expression of power, an exploitation of transmisogynist systems, intended to control our behavior and limit our options. It's to punish us for others' violence. It's to permanently render us second class women.
Maleness, just like femaleness, is not inherently good or bad. But when it's forced on TMA people, it becomes a corrupting, toxic pollutant that destroys our bodies and renders us violent rape werewolves to be constantly monitored and punished.
Hey can cis and TME people stop explaining transmisogyny and how misogyny affects TMA people to TMA people? Thanks. You always end up saying some nonsense like "trans women are male" or "trans women are AMAB" which is transmisogynist misgendering. Hope that helps!
I'm increasingly not a fan of standpoint theory because I've seen people say some fake BS, usually in service to their own preferred bigotries, but at the same time I really feel like the vast majority of TME people really do not have the capacity to understand our oppression.
To be an ally and cis one really needs to be a gender traitor and especially a traitor to cisness, and that means stop grouping trans women and transfems with cis men. We are two separate groups with different experiences, lives, and needs. Our material positions are different.
Whenever a white cis woman talks about needing white cis men to defend her from scary anybody my instinct is to look for the exits
A few years of violent ideation from white cishet weirdos angry about bathrooms will do that to a girl.
Actually I kid I've seen these women call for cis men to protect them from trans women for decades.
I want nothing to do with this nonsense, we should look for ways to deal with societal problems without carceral solutions of state-sanctioned or any other kind of murder.