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Dear Guys,

This is what it means when you say “I love you to a lady “

I will show you 10 things .

A thread .
1. I love you means that you will put her needs and desires above yours . She will be first and you second . You will do things you don’t love to do so as to please her . You will consider her needs before you consider yours . It means sacrifice and selflessness .
2. It means that when she is sad or not in a good place emotionally you will be there till she comes out of it . You will inquire and seat in silence with if need be . It will annoy you and drive you crazy but it may be what she needs you to do .
3. I love you means going out by 11pm when she is 6months pregnant and all of a sudden wants to eat ice cream or ewa agoyin. It means you will go and get that silly thing (in your own eyes) she asks for even when not convenient.
4. I love you means saying sorry first and never seeking to win the argument . It means being ok with being wrong when she insists you are even though you know she is not right . You understand that she will get it later but for right now you don’t need to win .
5. I love you is when you choose to wait till you are married before you touch her sexually . Even though every part of you wants to have her . Love means you wait till you can both express yourself sexually with a good conscience.
6. I love you means that you will root for her and “blow her trumpet “ when she feels she isn’t up to a task . It means you make her feel that there is no challenge too difficult for her to surmount .
7. I love you means cooking at home from time to time as she allows you . It is changing the baby’s diapers . It is baby sitting . It is letting her rest and go out with her friends during weekend . It is letting her also live .
8. I love you is trusting her to be loyal to you and your marriage or relationship. It is trusting her word that who she says someone is to her is who they are to her . I love you also means I trust you and believe in your integrity .
9. I love you also means that I am okay with you not choosing me even if I have chosen you . I am okay with letting you go if you don’t think I am the best for you . I love you means I am here for your happiness and if I cannot be the source of it I am hoping you find another .
10. I love you means I will not divorce or separate from you ! I will always be by your side whether I am happy or sad . I will be constant and stable . You will not have to look for me . I will be there . I love you is a commitment! I love you is a covenant.
So brothers , be careful how you say “I love you “ . Understand exactly what you are saying . I love you is a heavy statement. Do not use it carelessly !

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