A lot of my dude insecurity stuff is linked to internal expectations of what I'm supposed to do and want and be as a Black woman within my own culture. That pressure comes from family as well as general expectations of needing to have booty and breasts to be attractive.
My family literally has a retrospective at the end of the year to talk about stuff we should have done better. For the two sisters who are unmarried, we are talked down to because we are too independent (they raised us to be this way)
Sorry we have our own careers and houses and cars and whatever else. We are set financially on our own accord. When you have a woman who can provide for herself financially, it's much harder to find someone who can be there for her emotionally. Patriarchy doesn't work that way
Did a Muse episode on this topic. The world is a little bit different now. Women can provide them for themselves. What if your value as a partner is based on you and everything you are and not on expectations to be a provider?

That's a bit deeper and a lot more responsibility and a lot more requirements for intimacy and vulnerability isn't it?

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10 Oct
Just kidding…a taste….of Joy…in Repetition. Circa 2002. It’s fine I didn’t technically share it just pointing y’all to this fine soldier in Prince’s army

Hear the whole thing here!

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04…we knew the things that happened then…but here’s another thing that happened….Pulling a song he wrote, covered by Tevin, reclaimed by him on 95’s Gold Experience, presented to you here by a mature Professor.

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Why did a panel of musicians and critics not tap him to be a recognized and celebrated guitar player until 2011 when he FINALLY made the list of greatest players at #33?
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Daytime feels like obligations and jobs and stuff. Night time is quiet and reflection and feeling present on top of time. 💜
If you are a nap person like me, invest in blackout curtains for your bedroom. I got these ones for me and they literally changed my life. (Photo of my bedroom before I bought my house... I have these curtains up now and it's like perfectly dark at noon)

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I will do a video during daytime to show you how dark it is in here with those curtains.
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So most of you know the plot of Lolita by Vladimir Nabokov. If you don’t I’ll leave this here to help you do your googles.

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lolita
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There are so many #Prince #StevieWonder connects! I want to take tomorrow to honor Stevie for his 70th birthday outside the context of P. He is in my top five artists & as much as he influenced my favorite artist, he deserves his own recognition on his day. A quick purple thread:
One of many times they played together...

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Everybody’s here! This is the jam of the year! #PrinceEmancipationDay (video by Mark Jago of Molotov, Sydney Australia)

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