A lot of my dude insecurity stuff is linked to internal expectations of what I'm supposed to do and want and be as a Black woman within my own culture. That pressure comes from family as well as general expectations of needing to have booty and breasts to be attractive.
https://twitter.com/InayaFolarin/status/1313459239734648841
My family literally has a retrospective at the end of the year to talk about stuff we should have done better. For the two sisters who are unmarried, we are talked down to because we are too independent (they raised us to be this way)
Sorry we have our own careers and houses and cars and whatever else. We are set financially on our own accord. When you have a woman who can provide for herself financially, it's much harder to find someone who can be there for her emotionally. Patriarchy doesn't work that way
Did a Muse episode on this topic. The world is a little bit different now. Women can provide them for themselves. What if your value as a partner is based on you and everything you are and not on expectations to be a provider?
https://twitter.com/PodcastJuice/status/1147574074152873984?s=19
That's a bit deeper and a lot more responsibility and a lot more requirements for intimacy and vulnerability isn't it?
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