Really important read for pastors. Thanks, @Ikefmiller!
https://twitter.com/iamfujimura/status/1320689948450836480
In last few years, we've started the necessary conversation about how the pastorate attracts those w/ narcissitic tendencies. But that's only part of the conversation.
IME, the pastorate also attracts (& crushes) those who struggle w/ codependency. It's an ideal place to serve & feel needed. But the balance can quickly tip to loss of self & lead to a unique kind of spiritual abuse.
Yes, narcissists stand in to pulpit, but they also sit on the deacon board, the budget committee, & the back row. And when a pastor is struggling w/ codependency, it creates perfect storm.
Church leaders must understand that the dynamics of spiritual abuse exist everywhere. It's not a matter of whether your congregation will face them, but when & how. Being able to identify & name them is essential to both the health of the community & the ones called to serve her.
All that to say, I'm *really* grateful for this article from @Ikefmiller. It identifies & names a piece of the puzzle that is often overlooked.
While church ministry is hard, it should not be toxic. We must learn to identity the difference. For the sake of the church, for the sake of pastors, for the sake of the gospel.
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