Jurjāni defines it as “An existing thing that requires a place in order for it to exist” Al Ta’rīfāt p125
Therefore, the traits of the Human being from his eyes to his hands to his knowledge to his ears etc are all أعراض (plural of عرض) as it requires a place (the body) to exist
This is how the Mu’tazilah refuted the Ash’ariyyah who affirmed the attributes of hearing, seeing, knowledge etc for Allaah.
The Mu’tazilah said these traits are all أعراض and أعراض cannot exist except with a body (جسم) therefore you are Mujassimah (anthropomorphists)
The Ash’ariyyah, fleeing from this dangerous Ilzām, came up with this idea that these attributes we affirm are not أعراض because الأعراض لا يدوم زمانين
“أعراض do not span over two [consecutive] time periods”
As Allaah is eternal, so are His attributes thus they are not أعراض
This view is attributed to Al Ash’ari himself by Al Shahrastāni in his Milal Wa-l Nihal 1/96
“وتكليف ما لا يطاق جائز على مذهبه للعلة التي ذكرناها. ولأن الاستطاعة عنده عرض، والعرض لا يبقى زمانين”
The pronoun Haa’ returns back to Al Ash’ari
However, in fleeing from the clutches of the Mu’tazilah, they fell into the clutches of the Hanābilah who said to them:
Prophethood is an عرض and according to this principle, العرض لا يدوم زمانين
The Prophet before death was in one time period and after death he is in another
Therefore, his prophethood ended after his death. Thus, he is no longer a prophet.
If they say he still is a Prophet in his grave (another time period), then when will his prophethood end because الاعراض لا يدوم زمانين?
It was for this reason, the famous Ash’ari scholar Ibn Fawrak was poisoned and killed as Al Dhahabi relayed in his Siyar 17/216
Which is you will find Hanābilah like Ibn Jawzi criticise the Ash’ariyyah for this:
See Al Dhahabi’s Siyar 21/376
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Treat this night as though it might pass naturally like any other night.
As if today you went and visited her at home, sat with her, had dinner together, then escorted her to the gate and bid her farewell.
This is "a night like others."
it is the anticipated night and the real privacy, and the first time you test yourself and she tests herself, and you will read her and she will read you.
It has its specificity, but don't let this specificity reach a degree that makes this night terrifying for the wife, and possibly for you too.
This is "a night unlike others."
2. From Sexual Tension to Psychological Tension
What do I mean by sexual tension and psychological tension?
The tense young man who insists on achieving something specific may create a crack in the wife's psyche that remains with her for the rest of the marriage, like saying:
“Listen, today this thing must happen like this and this and as I want.”
it's true that she's been in the engagement period and perhaps there have been some flirtation’s between you, but she might not be prepared for what’s on your mind.
There's the issue of fear of pain from the (virgin) woman's side, and the fear of failure to perform from the man's side.
You MUST forget much of what exists in illusions in media, customs, and traditions.