Dealing with the Wedding Night
1. A Night Like Others and Unlike Others
Treat this night as though it might pass naturally like any other night.
As if today you went and visited her at home, sat with her, had dinner together, then escorted her to the gate and bid her farewell.
This is "a night like others."
it is the anticipated night and the real privacy, and the first time you test yourself and she tests herself, and you will read her and she will read you.
It has its specificity, but don't let this specificity reach a degree that makes this night terrifying for the wife, and possibly for you too.
This is "a night unlike others."
May 15 • 12 tweets • 2 min read
There are 8 widespread engagement misconceptions that will derail your marriage before it even starts.
You MUST avoid them:
Misconception #1: “I have to feel completely comfortable with my future spouse during engagement.”
We are Muslims.
The reality is, if it’s done in Halal, complete comfort is IMPOSSIBLE at this stage.
There will always be an element of uncertainty.
Your future spouse remains partially unknown regardless of how many conversations you have.
This is normal, not a red flag.
Apr 25 • 14 tweets • 2 min read
Ever finished a day feeling like you accomplished NOTHING?
You had plans to study, work, pray but the hours vanished.
I discovered how to master time & it changed everything for me.
A thread on time management as a Muslim... 🧵👇
The problem isn't your discipline or willpower.
The revelation that changed my life: We are applying secular schedules to what’s supposed to be a Muslim oriented life.
The Salaf had a different approach which neuroscience confirms works better.
Apr 9, 2023 • 7 tweets • 3 min read
The Haraki Ikhwani or the anti-Salafi Jahmi will attack Ibn Baz for his Fatwa in seeking aid from the USA during the Gulf War conflict of 1990-1991
But they really should focus on what their own scholars had to say about this incident.
1. The Mufti of Egypt: Muhammad Sayyid Al Tantaawi validates Saudi Arabia’s decision to accept military assistance from the Kuffar as a sound Shar’i ruling.
Not only that, he vociferously defends this ruling & rebukes those who stood against this ruling.
Mar 25, 2023 • 5 tweets • 1 min read
The central message in Juz 4 is that to be successful, 4 qualities are needed:
- Patience
- Perseverance
- Vigilance
- Mindfulness of God
This is summed in the final verse of Aal Imran
Patiently endure, persevere, stand on guard, & be mindful of Allah, so you may be successful
For Prophet Ibrahim to establish to the House of Allah, he required these qualities.
For him to establish the path of Haneefiyyah, he required these qualities.
Mar 24, 2023 • 15 tweets • 3 min read
Juz 3 contains the greatest verse of the Quran - Ayat Al Kursi.
This verse contains the greatest name of Allah which if invoked, He responds and if asked with, He gives.
Al Hayy Al Qayyum - the Ever Living, All Sustaining.
“Al Hayy" includes all the attributes of perfection that are necessary for it, meaning that God is perfect in every way and possesses all the attributes that are necessary for being “The Ever Living”
Mar 23, 2023 • 6 tweets • 2 min read
Juz 2 is probably the most Fiqh dense Juz in the Quran.
You’ll find discussed the Fiqh of:
- Prayer
- Fasting
- Hajj/Umrah
- Jihad
- Retribution/Hudood
- Inheritance/Testaments
- Intoxicants/Gambling
- Marriage, Sex & Menses
- Divorce
- Breastfeeding
- The waiting period
Etc.,
It starts off however with the changing of the Qiblah.
The wisdom behind why they were originally commanded to face the old Qibla & then repeatedly told to change to a new Qibla was to distinguish those who would remain faithful to the Messenger from those who would lose faith.
Mar 22, 2023 • 7 tweets • 2 min read
The crimes of Bani Isra’il in Juz 1:
- Commands good but don’t do it themselves
- Worshipped the calf
- Said they wouldn’t believe until they actually saw God
- Refused to say what God told them to say and instead said something else
- Could not remain patient with one food
- Killed prophets
- Disbelieved in God’s signs
- Turned away from the covenant they gave
- Violated the Sabbath
- Purposely dragged their feet & stalled when commanded to sacrifice a cow
- Killed a man
- Hearts harder than stone
- Twisted and distorted the word of God
Feb 28, 2023 • 5 tweets • 1 min read
“it’s “Muslim red pill podcasters” who speak to kuffar about “submissive muslim women” that made them desire us”
Yh no don’t pull wool over our eyes.
These “podcasters” were irrelevant pre-2020 and these Kuffar were still all over Twitter & social media doing the same thing
“It’s men fault since they left Jihad and cannot control their women”
This is the fundamental root for all of our problems which anyone who has followed this account should know we hold.
Your root is from Adam but that doesn’t contradict that you have an immediate mom & dad
Jul 12, 2022 • 11 tweets • 4 min read
Funny how these women cry about how serious we should take “mental health” but when studies show that a man witnessing childbirth can be traumatic and leave some men mentally scarred which can last way beyond that incident, these women belittle it 😆
As usual women are in the replies getting emotional, personal or arguing a strawman.
Relax, take a deep breath and understand what has actually been said.
Jul 11, 2022 • 12 tweets • 2 min read
Some reflections on the “How philosophy overcame my doubts” video
The context is there was a back and forth between some “Salafis” and some individuals behind that podcast on the issue of using philosophy in dawah
So a guest who used to be a Salafi is then brought on to show how “Salafism” didn’t help him whereas philosophy did.
Jul 9, 2022 • 10 tweets • 4 min read
What is the authenticity of this Hadith?
It could be said that it’s weak due to the presence of Abu Khalaf Al A’ma who is Matruk.
Yahya b. Ma’een labelled him a liar.
Abu Hatim said he is Munkar Al Hadith.
Al Dhahabi said he is Layyin.
Similarly, Mu’aan b. Rifa’ah is Layyin Al Hadith and some have weakened him.
Jun 4, 2022 • 7 tweets • 2 min read
A brother asked me to comment on the claims that the people of Lut were actually engaging in male rape and not same-sex intimacy.
This understanding of the story is problematic from a 'progressive' pov as mentioned by progressives themselves.
Male anal rape = non-consensual sexual violation.
If Prophet Lut was rebuking his people for non-consensual sexual violations and not same-sex intimacy, it means that Lut believed "consent" must be a requirement for lawful sexual relations.
May 3, 2022 • 7 tweets • 2 min read
Allah said:
فَأَمَّا ٱلزَّبَدُ فَيَذْهَبُ جُفَآءً ۖ وَأَمَّا مَا يَنفَعُ ٱلنَّاسَ فَيَمْكُثُ فِى ٱلْأَرْضِ ۚ كَذَٰلِكَ يَضْرِبُ ٱللَّهُ ٱلْأَمْثَالَ
"The ˹worthless˺ residue is then cast away, but what benefits people remains on the earth. This is how Allah sets forth parables"
This is a parable that compares the action of one who shows off or does things with doubt with the action of one who has certainty and sincerity.
The believer who acts sincerely and with certainty, his action is like those beneficial things that remain on the earth.
Apr 14, 2022 • 16 tweets • 4 min read
"Why didn't Islam explicitly prohibit slavery?"
Before asking this (and other questions related to Shubuhat that one may have), ask yourself these questions:
- Do I hate Allah's Legislation? If so, why?
- What sin did I do that made it difficult for me to believe and submit?
- Why is it difficult for me to accuse myself when it is easy for me to accuse Islam?
- Did Satan make me slip through some of my sins?
- Did my watching of western movies/shows etc. make it difficult for me to accept the truth?
Apr 11, 2022 • 6 tweets • 1 min read
Why are there so many reports on "obeying the ruler"?
Because the preservation of the 'five maqasid' rest on unity and togetherness under the banner of the ruler who rules in accordance to the law of God.
A brother sent me an extra benefit in the answer to this question.
When one contemplates over the verses & Ahadith that contain terms such as:
- Caliph
- Sultan
- Wali
- Ameer
- Haakim
You find that Allah connects faith related concepts to these names
Apr 8, 2022 • 5 tweets • 1 min read
If one focuses on improving these four traits, they will see a marked improvement in their character.
To obtain patience requires one to go through trials.
By going through these trials, one will feel empathy towards what others are going through which leads them to try and protect others from harm reaching them via his side.
Apr 4, 2022 • 4 tweets • 1 min read
The first few pages of Aal Imran [Chapter 3] prior to the story of Jesus mention attributes of perfection that belong to the One True God alone.
And then in the story of Jesus, you'll find the opposite of these attributes affirmed for Jesus to show that he is not God.
E.g.:
"Allah is the one who shapes you in the wombs of your mothers as He wills" [3:6]
The story of Jesus and his family begins with mention of
Mary, John and Jesus being shaped in the wombs of their mothers. [3:35-45]
How can one who was shaped in the womb of his mother be God?
Mar 26, 2022 • 11 tweets • 2 min read
The normative state in the husband-wife relationship is that both are not Naashiz (i.e., showing ill-conduct) whereas much of the situations discussed in Fiqh manuals relate to when the spouse is Naashiz, especially the situation asked.
From my experience, questions like this tend to come from people who have had little interactions with women or people who know the answer to this question but want to cause problems..
There are principles a husband is to uphold when dealing with a wife that has not shown Nushuz
Mar 12, 2022 • 20 tweets • 6 min read
The story of Prophet Yusuf is from the stories of the unseen of which we have only been given bits of the entire puzzle, especially when it comes to the rule of Yusuf and his dealings with the King of Egypt.
Allah said:
Also, the actions of previous prophets should not be judged in accordance with our own sharia.
It is known in our sharia that making statues is forbidden.
But in the sharia of Prophet Sulayman it was not.
Allah said:
Feb 26, 2022 • 4 tweets • 1 min read
In the video, he makes no mention of any rulers or scholars at all.
He says that the zionists are easy to destroy so much so that even women & children could do it with stones but we first need to destroy those with the same skin as us who strive to keep those zionists in
