1) This is a coming out moment but it’s important to understand what is happening with Trump. Bear with me. I must explain context. Most people associate what I’m about to say about sex but it isn’t. Stay with me.
2) Sex is a major part of this but it’s more psychological than anything else.
3) I am in the BDSM community. Most people think whips and chains and that’s ok. That a part. It’s extremely far from what BDSM is. In fact, people who understand the nuance are better off in every aspect of life.
4) What it really means is control. Specifically Dominant and submissive. Again this isn’t about sex though it can be.
5) D/s (as we refer to it, capitalization important) is an exercise of psychological and emotional awareness.
6) Bad things happen when (usually) men decide they will be Dom. They are identified early and not welcome in the community. Dominants don’t get to choose.
7) Dominants don’t get to choose because the submissive is the dominant. They consent. They control. They allow the Dom to do what he will. Or she. Within the subs limits. They control. We do not.
8) I am in BDSM. I am a switch default Dom. I know, deeply, that I have no control except what my sub allows. This isn’t sex. Though it is sometimes
9) As Doms, we engage our subs. We understand what they are looking for. What they want. The challenges they are struggling to deal with
10) This can be “daddy issues” which are often a lost or absent dad. They want someone to provide a security they didn’t have before. Sometimes it’s pain because dopamine allows them to confront something that hurt them.
11) This is all super deep. None of it happens without communication and understanding. It’s a problem of it happens without.
12) No man should just March in and assume that they are going to solve problems because they have a big dick or have supersized confidence. It all starts with empathy and trust. I will not hurt you. For real.
13) This is my coming out. I’m a psychological Dom. I want to hit nobody because I have history. I don’t want to hit or be hit. Some people love that. I cannot do that.
14) But I will challenge your mind. I will make you question what you believe. I’m a psychological Dom. And I’m going to make sure you’re with me before pushing things too far.
15) So here’s where Trump comes in. He is abusive. He isn’t asking your opinion. He’s just exercising raw force and, shame on us psych Doms, is forcing emotional manipulation.
16) It’s never a healthy situation where someone, who sees themselves as a Dom, asserts his own interests over yours
17) It’s never acceptable when a single called Dom decides he knows what you want before you do.
18) Lots of bondage and choking or hitting happens in BDSM. If it isn’t communicated as consensual, it is assault.
19) we are being assaulted. We did not consent to a second term. He is taking something that hasn’t been consented to. It is assault.
20) He tells us he loves us, but he is taking what isn’t consented to.
21) This isn’t consent. It isn’t an exercise in exploring our own demons. This isn’t a process of healing. It is rape.
22) He must leave. And we must find it in ourselves to make him leave. We cannot accept what he is doing.
Rant over and now you know about my sex life.
I am more than happy to have discussions about BDSM and what it means and how it affects the human relation, I’m open to that. Now that it’s in the open. I’m disinclined to talk about it as a sexual thing though.
If the conservative mantra of “personal responsibility” is the core... the willing and trusting giving of sovereignty by a sub to a Dom, is the ultimate decision of “personal responsibility”. Sheer brute force is not
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