Writing an obituary for one of my dearest neighbors. I feel so grateful every time a friend asks me if I would do the obituary -- for a historian like me, doing an obituary feels like an incredible privilege of listening and composing. And it gives me a path of grief.
But man, it's hard to write while you're crying and crying.
At the post-pandemic memorial, Joe expects to speak for two or three hours about Elaine, “until somebody shoots me, or until Elaine’s spirit plunges down and wrings my neck and tells me to let somebody else get in a word. There will be a lot of music, I can tell you that."
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One of the most useful things a friend taught me was saying, "This is the worst thing that has ever happened to us!" when something goes wrong. It makes problems magically shrink from perspective juice.
I just had to use it (with a glass of wine) for a data problem. It worked. I taught it to my sister last year, as a trick, when we were texting intensely about mom without realizing we were using a thread that had mom's phone included. 😱
Mom was taking a nap. We seriously considered having my sister dash over, bust in, and delete the convo. We had been texting about trying to get her to take better care of herself, and how we could sneakily help her in spite of mom's fierce independent streak.
So, back in January, I started suggesting we all needed to be prepared to self-quarantine for a few weeks. I had never suggested this before except for telling my History of Med students over the years that my MD spouse and I keep emergency "epidemic boxes."
Someone asked me how I "knew" this might be "the one" back in Jan. I didn't know - I just had a feeling based on having taught SARS and knowing experts in that case said "We got lucky. We won't get lucky with the next really bad coronavirus." The signs this time were like SARS.
This virus is weird - skewing hard to kill the elderly. This may cause atypical epidemic behavior, as most epidemics cause more panic by killing younger people. Looks like we will see high infection rates but not deaths in younger folks. The young will be vectors of death.
On rare occasions, my background in medicine studies meets my deep personal background meets the reporting I now do for my community @eastlansinginfo. I just came from such an occasion: East Lansing 54B District Court "Drug Court" graduation. 1/n
@eastlansinginfo Probation Officer Amy Iseler (left) and Judge Andrea Larkin (right) get it -- that opioid use disorders require deep, supportive interventions if people are to be saved. They get that people with the disorder struggle with shame, loneliness, low self-worth and need huge help.
@eastlansinginfo One mother joined her graduating son, talked about her own opioid use disorder. She said he had found his best friend dead of overdose. "In your court," she said, "everything was different. You treated him with dignity and respect. You saw him as a person.... You are my heroes."
For 5 years I've run a successful, sustained, local, factual, online news operation @eastlansinginfo. Yesterday I was told I'm ineligible for a Knight Foundation fellowship meant for "senior leadership of new journalism organizations and projects based in the Midwest." 1/2
@eastlansinginfo The reason I'm not eligible? Because journalism has not been my "primary" source of income for 6 years or more. I resigned my job at Northwestern in 2015, over censorship. So I'm ineligible for wallacehouse.umich.edu/knight-wallace… 2/n
@eastlansinginfo At @eastlansinginfo I've engaged 150 members of the community as reporters of high-quality news. I have personally reported over 1,000 articles including breaking some of the biggest stories in our city steadily for 5 years. My community loves us & supports us. 3/n