Thread by @tjitendra

#HumanInteractions are complex and its one of the key skills to excel in life. Good thing is this can be developed into habit by desire, knowledge and skill.
#7HabitsOfEffectivePeople

1) There are five paradigms of Human Interaction
Win/Win
Win/Lose
Lose/Win
Lose/Lose
No Deal

2) Win/Win is a frame of mind and heart that constantly seeks mutual benefits in all #HumanInteraction. Its based on the paradigm that there is plenty for everybody and one person's success is not achieved at the expense of others success

3) Win/Win is a belief in the third alternative. Its not your way or my way; its a better way, a higher way

4) Win/Lose is based on the thought of dichotomy; strong/weak, hardball/softball etc and its based on power, position, credentials, possessions or personality to get ones way.

5) Academic world reinforces Win/Lose scripting. It says that you got "A" because someone else got "C". Sports world embraces Win/Lose is positive way

6) Lose/Win is worse than Win/Lose in most cases because its usually used for appeasement, avoiding conflict or surrender. They seek strength from popularity or acceptance.

7) Win/Lose people love Lose/Win people because they can feed on them. Such weakness complement their strengths.

8) Lose/Lose is the result of interaction between stubborn and ego-invested individuals who think "if nobody wins, perhaps being a loser isn't so bad"

9) No Deal is another expression of Win/Win which means if we cant find a solution that would benefits us both, we agree to disagree agreebly - No Deal.

10) Anything less than Win/Win is an independent reality is poor second choice(except sports, law etc). Cost of the impact needs to be carefully considered.

11) What is the best option? It depends on reality. Challenge is to read the reality accurately which requires Maturity.

12) Maturity is the balance between courage and consideration. If the person can express his feeling and convictions with courage balanced with consideration for the feelings of others, he is mature

13) Principles of Win/Win is fundamental to success in all our interactions and must be a habit to achieve interpersonal leadership.

14) Abundance mentality is essential trait for Win/Win which believes that there is plenty out there for everybody. People with scarcity mindset have difficult time to share recognition, power, credit etc.