Thread by @Grace_undiluted

In 2017, I met a 45 years old Abroad based Nigerian man on Facebook. We got talking, he became so fond of me (what's there not to like ). he was very sincere and told me he has a wife "oyibo" over there. We became very good friends and he really was generous to me.

One day, we were having a conversation and he asked me what I wanted the most and I told him that I have always wanted to study in Canada or Australia and he told me to consider it done.

Note: we never spoke of relationship. It was just friendship.

On my 20th birth month, he

asked me to let him arrange for me to come visit him for my birthday celebration but I turned it down because it seems like such a huge offer and more because school was on session. He paid for my passport, IElTS exam, paid someone to help me secure admission at Charles Darwin

University. It was time to write the English proficiency exam so I traveled to lagos along with a friend because I was yet to inform my family. He also scheduled to come back to Nigeria a day before my exam. I was excited about the whole thing and was eager to see this angel.

I was supposed to go to my brother's place in Ikeja, write the exam, see Mr Angel in Festac then head to my sister's place in Lekki but everything changed when I saw him. It was all fun at first, we hanged out with his younger brother who also returned with him and my friend.

we got back and he sat me down to talk. He stared at me for what seems like forever and started off with how amazing my personality is, he emphasized on how many times he sent me huge amount of money for people or projects and I did exactly as I was told. It was a long talk but

he ended it with " I sincerely love you and will want to marry you".
I realized his plan was either to marry me then send me to Australia as planned to study or start dating me and send me to Australia but whichever one, he just want something intimate. To be frank, I wasn't all

that suprised neither was I disappointed because several times I've asked myself what he really wanted because he did a lot for me to just want to be friends but I didn't want to conclude.
He was a good man and the most sincere person I've ever seen. He was my kind of man but he

Was married even though he said "it's a white woman" marriage is marriage for me. It was a tough one for me and almost everyone I spoke to about it asked me to go ahead mostly because he was so so wealthy although very humble but after all said and done, I can't imagine being a

second wife and a side chick is no better option so I told him know. He was hurt and he didn't hesitate to tell me that but at the end, he took it in good faith and we're still good although not close anymore. I'm still here in Nigeria hoping to leave Nigeria this year to a

my Dad can afford. If it works, fine and if it doesn't I will keep faith and try again next year. So many girls face similar situations but the difference is the choices we make at the end of it all.

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