why is there a mental health impact when symbols such as parliament, of constitutional sanctity, the apex courts, are vandalised? Because it violates our personal sense of security, justice. the court of last appeal is dismantled. our vulnerability rises. we feel unprotected.
in such times we go to the primal sources of our security, which is often parental, home, groups and identities we belong to, community, religion. a banding together can give us the sense of security that comes from the herd or tribe.
These times are harder for those of us who do not have that in itself available to us. many of us who are without these primal cocoons in one form or the other. It is important to locate in these times what our sense of rootedness & structure comes from and take refuge in that
We all need a space of refuge that is sacred. the court of last appeal, though we may never need to approach it, exists as a a reassurance. Which is why even avowed atheists may sometimes send up a silent prayer in times of crisis. You dont need to believe in it to seek it
Consider deeply today your space of refuge. it could be law, it could be home, it could be religion, it could be universal order. it could be unconditional love and friendship. contemplate it deeply and expand its boundaries to include all that you wish to keep safe.
This meditation/visualisation will help you set a boundary that acts in lieu of what is lost. preserving what has been torn down, and keeping sanctified what has been violated.
I hope this helps those of you who need it at this time.
If you have children who are frightened by the news events, doing the visualisation with them in a group will help them feel a sense of control over their personal boundaries.
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sometimes we look to label our emotions and find them confusing because there are a great number of conflicting emotions mixed in together. we feel happy for someone but also sadness for ourselves. none of our emotions are pure and neat. it's okay for them to be jumbled up.
this is also why it is important to sit with our emotions. we'll observe that some emotions are dominant, others underlying. that beneath anger is fear, beneath avoidance is grief we have not processed. we'll also observe these emotions come and go, mutable and impermanent.
the more we get to know our emotions the more we see they are not to be trusted. they are not stable or the ground we build on, just indicators of our relationships with things and people, themselves capable of change. We can see that such relationships can be transformed too.
There is a difference between releasing emotions like anger, grief, disappointment and feeding them.
Release comes from legitimate expression. Feeding comes from exaggeration.
Anger as it releases seeks oxygen. Other grievances, multiplier factors.
That's where non reaction works
It can be little tricky, but the best way to cope is to
allow the feeling to emerge by acknowledging it.
yet disallowing its growth by not reacting to it.
it's a middle path to walk.
I see you, anger, but you don't get to control me or define me.
when anger gets unlimited expression it becomes bigger than its originating event/cicrcumstance.
part of the process of contemplation is keeping our valid feelings of disappointment, regret, anger, proportionate.
catastrophization feeds.
non reactive observation releases
Anger is adrenaline. Like sugar, it lasts as long as it receives external strokes, validation to keep it going. But in the end, it needs fuel. It demands to be constantly fed and when you cant feed it, it consumes you. The burden of anger always belongs to the one carrying it.
Most anger is projection. I am angry therefore I resonate with the things that feed my anger. You think the cure is in ending the provocation, but it’s not. It’s in ending the ability of the provocation to elicit a response in you. The origin and end is always in us
A philosophy based on anger, need, fear of elimination, grasping is a self fulfilling prophecy.
My maid just called to let me know her daughter got 83% in the state board exams. Much celebrations here today. She's fought tooth and nail to educate her against so much of the regular societal oppression. This girl is going to rocket through life. Just you watch.
This blew up so let me tell you her story, which she had shared with me in an interview for a book that's going to take a while to be published. My maid who is my age had decided to have only one child. She had a daughter. Then when she got pregnant again, she wanted to abort.
She was not allowed. So she had the child, a boy, and quietly got her tubes tied. Her reasons were clear, when we have one child whatever limited earnings we have can give him or her the best life she can have. However ecosystem wanted a boy. When found out, she was thrown out
My son soaked a pair of shorts to wash on March 15 2020, the day we requested our maid to stop coming (with full pay). I just realised it is still there. After a week I was afraid it would be alive. Now I am afraid it may actually be the source of the pandemic.
I admit Im afraid to enter the bathroom without protective gear. I do not want to touch the thing. I also do not think anyone else can be paid enough to touch the thing. My options are 1. sealing the bathroom door and pretending it doesnt exist. 2. Setting the bucket on fird
How did it come to this, you ask? This is the outcome of stubbornly trying to teach teenagers to take accountability for their chores. It began as a stand off. It has now gone to the deep dark area that requires a SWAT team and an evacuation task force sent by NATO