You should pursue an autism diagnosis whenever it feels right for you to do so. You do not have to cross a threshold of suffering first - in fact, you deserve whatever it takes to help make sure you don't ever reach breaking point, and diagnosis is often a part of that.
The fact that so many people only get diagnosed when they are struggling the most, because people only see the suffering side of autism and therefore don't recognise anything else, is an issue that we have been trying to rectify for years - it ruins and takes lives.
You deserve to have a diagnosis and access support and accommodations BEFORE you reach breaking point.
You deserve better than to have to wait until you can't cope anymore.
You deserve to never have to hit the depths of that rock bottom place.
(And no, diagnosis doesn't solve all of this, and diagnosis isn't always the answer, but it's important to recognise that it can be a part of it and people deserve to be able to explore it as an option before they hit breaking point)
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The problem with them ending Tuesday on a weird 'well he does SORTA know but also he doesn't' is that it's not a big enough of a lie to have any sort of dramatic reveal, but it is a big enough of a lie to matter if they never address it?
Like, the only way for it to come out is if Callum admits the true story of how it actually happened, because anything DIDH says to Ben can be brushed under the carpet as 'well he was secretly working against you the whole time'.
Add to that that we literally don't actually know what Ben knows? He knows that Callum was asked to spy, but then apparently Callum went to Jack, but they didn't mention if he actually did spy to keep up the pretence, so does Ben know about the bug? THE WIRE AT LEXI'S DANCE?
'Christmas is cancelled' is such hyperbolic bullshit rhetoric because it literally isn't, it's just different this year.
I'm just saying, if you were planning big family gatherings for Christmas this year because the restrictions were lifted, I'm not sad that you now have to cancel them because you should have known fucking better.
I'm beyond done with abled people. I don't have anything left.
As a neurodivergent person who has lived on this earth for nearly 29 years, I should not be surprised that EE's story about Mick's trauma response to repressed memories of childhood abuse resurfacing has been focused heavily on his wife's 'not getting enough attention' feels.
I mean, that's exactly how they treated Ollie's autism. It's all about how it gives his mum sads that he's autistic and how she responds to the sads.
Neurodivergent people only get to exist as burdens to those we love and/or as people who don't deserve love and support.
Surely not a coincidence that Ollie's mum and Mick's wife are the same person.
Mick should find someone who will recognise that this is so obviously a mental health crisis, support him through it, and then get primary custody of Ollie, and that's that on that.
Every single way that researchers find that autistics differ from non-autistics will be labelled as a 'deficit' or 'disordered', even if that difference is not negative in any way (and sometimes even when it's positive: i.e. when they found us to be more honest and ethical).
This is because they inherently view autistics and autistic behaviour as 'bad' by virtue of it not being neurotypical. We are nothing more than broken neurotypicals that they're trying to fix, because normality is king even when the difference is harmless or even beneficial.
They are so blinkered by the idea that they have to make us 'normal' that they forget to consider what's actually best for us. So if we express or show distress in a slightly different way, the issue is in making us do distress 'correctly' rather than mitigating distress.
I've just a note from Twitter saying that someone reported their 'concern' that my recent tweets indicate I'm going to harm myself.
I have tweeted nothing of that nature, so I can only assume this is an attempt at harassment or to make me be quiet.
If you're genuinely concerned about me, please don't do this? It's actually quite intimidating and in invasion of privacy. Please reach out to me, or someone you know I interact with, if your concerns are genuine. Don't do this.
I don't feel protected, I don't feel loved, I don't feel supported.
#Yale just did a study, passed by their ethics committee, which literally measured 'distress' in autistic children by frightening them with Halloween masks, large mechanical spiders, and strangers encroaching in their personal space #AttendLessFearMore
Not only this, but they then tried to defend it when the autistic community expressed outrage whilst blocking the Twitter user who leaked the paper, followed by them removing the paper from the link so that people can no longer see for themselves what they did #AttendLessFearMore
A single traumatic moment in childhood can have a lasting effect and is often the basis of phobias. This is especially true for autistic people. The researchers who claimed to be concerned about anxiety in autistic people have potentially created that anxiety #AttendMoreFearLess