The “tradeoff” between national unity and holding Trump and his goons accountable is a false dichotomy rooted in abuse culture…
Letting an abuser avoid the law “for the sake of the marriage” only helps the abuser.
There’s no real peace or unity in an abuser’s house. Telling someone to give their abuser a pass isn’t civility.
That’s why the civility argument always ignores the difference between punching up and punching down. You’re telling the offender and victim not to punch each other, knowing full well the offender won’t stop.
The path to national unity begins with *stopping the abuse*. It obligates a lot of us to realize, admit and begin to address our own role in abuse culture. Truth and accountability.
The parallels between rich, straight, abled white Christian male supremacy and abuse are endless. They’re the same thing at two scales. I’ve written more about it here. rantt.com/brett-kavanaug…
Highly recommend the work of Dr. Jennifer Freyd @jjfreydcourage and her colleagues for their work on the concept of DARVO and its application to institutions
https://twitter.com/edoverbeek/status/1275322244609105920
When you’re dealing with an abusive relationship, the goal is NOT to unify the abuser and abused. The onus is NOT on the abused. It’s not on the abuser (don’t hold your breath). It’s on those with the power to remove the abuser and help the abused. It’s on enablers, and the law.
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