A Thread - If my 48 year old self could talk to my 20 year old self I would say:
- No one's born knowing anything - we all learn. Never stop learning.
- You can do anything you set your mind to. Don't limit yourself, set your own goals, don't listen to naysayers.
- Love you /1
-Set your goals, have a plan, focus, focus, focus.
- Life will be there when you achieve your goals
- Trust your gut, especially with people. If you feel funny about a person, trust it.
- Keep your circle small and tight
- Create healthy habits
- Be spiritual - stay centered. /2
- Don't enter into any long term commitments if you have reservations, especially marriage.
- Never compare yourself to others. It is a recipe for unhappiness.
- It is okay to fail, I have learned more from failing than succeeding.
- Be kind.
- Be curious
- Forgive yourself. /3
- Learn to accept criticism, especially from those who truly love you.
- Perfection is a myth - we all make mistakes, try to learn from them
- Choose a life partner whom you are compatible with, have same interests, goals, respect and love
- Don't forget to have fun /4
- You can't control the bad things that happen to you, but you can control how you respond to them.
- Take care of your parents, you won't have them forever
- Choose your battles wisely
- Whatever your role in life, take it as a vocation. A way to serve God, give it your all. /4
- Don't fear calling out injustice when you witness it
- Get enough rest
- Find a place of peace : visit it often
- Follow your heart
- Read
- Be yourself.
- Help someone without expectation of anything in return
-Try to see the beauty in life
- Try to understand others. /4
Finally and most importantly find the courage to be yourself. /7

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