I heard a LOT about being willing to die for my faith in youth groups from many of the same people who are currently terrified of losing political or social power.
It’s a reminder for *all* of us that we might be cultivating a counterfeit courage instead of the real thing.
I don’t say that last part lightly. I spend a lot of time thinking about how any of us younger evangelicals will be able to find our own biases and blind spots before it’s too late.
This thought also brought to you by a week of reading various early Christian writings on non-violence, full of language and ideas that would be horrifying to many in our churches today.
The part that struck me the most was how often they said something along the lines of “Well of course they have to kill us, we don’t care about money or social status, so what they else could they even do?”
CAN YOU IMAGINE?
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Someone was talking about fear in a class today, and they mentioned how much more fear there is when you get married and have kids, because you have more people relying upon you. And while there is no doubt something true in this, it bothered me. Here’s why:
Our isolating and elevating of the nuclear family has led to this kind of thinking, that the only people that should demand something of us are our nuclear family members. We don’t need to shoulder anyone else’s burdens or feel responsible for them.
The NT, however, speaks much more frequently and strongly about the church, the new family of God, than the nuclear family. We are responsible for one another and bound to each other in ways that transcend and relativize our commitment to our immediate family.
There's something I've been noticing in some peers and definitely in myself: the idea that we should wait until we have influence/authority to say hard things.
But I'm increasingly convinced that many of us who think this is "wisdom" will end up with influence but no courage.
My friend @SHoddeMiller says in her book NICE that courage is a muscle you have to use in order to strengthen it. It takes practice. You don't become the leader who can act or speak courageously if you aren't practicing it before you have the position.
@SHoddeMiller There is certainly wisdom in building trust before you say something hard. But I fear that some of us are just afraid. We know what we should say or do and we keep telling ourselves that next time we'll have enough relationship or trust to do it. But we won't.
I had a class on Men's Ministry today, and ya'll - I have some thoughts.
1. I'm tired of classes that rely on tired gender stereotypes for an easy laugh or simplistic analogy, instead of robust and nuanced analysis of gender differences.
Such as:
-Men don't care about frilly lady things like centerpieces. Maybe flower arrangements aren't your thing (they aren't mine), but the appreciation of beauty is something we should value, recognize, and cultivate in all people, not just women.
- Men are incompetent when it comes to cooking, emotions, or relationships. LOL look at these videos of men who can't change diapers or LOL insert joke about men forgetting the napkins for their breakfast meeting