You're stronger than you think and weaker than you'd like to be
I still think of myself as being strong even though I think almost literally everyone is strong. I thought that maybe I could understand strength better if I could come at it from the other side and figure out what it means to be weak. That was the original idea for this comic...
But the more I sat with it the more I realised that traits we typically consider 'weak' are more likely symptoms of something else. Being 'weak willed' is a symptom of depression. Physical weakness could be the result of a disability. There's a lot of ableism in that idea.
So I think people are not inherently strong or weak maybe, but that you can choose to be strong or weak in a given moment. I think it's strong to fight for others and weak to abuse them. It's strong to admit you were wrong and change, and weak to double down on being shitty.
Sometimes it's just nice to be able to believe something about yourself even if it doesn't make perfect sense. Being able to tell myself that I'm a strong and determined person for all the things I've overcome helps to motivate me when I feel deflated.
Anyway I don't know lmao I'm not a philosopher, I just make melancholy internet comics :3 But 'you're so strong' is a sentiment I see a lot, and it's been said to me by others and I guess I was just trying to figure out what that really means haha ;;;;
Wait I've changed my mind. Actually, I am a philosopher
Firstly, start following a TON of comic artists who are making the kind of comics u want to make. One of the main reasons I started finally making comics was bc of @LucieEbrey 's strips. These days I'm inspired by @rdkieran@charlubby@Wrenternet@ADHD_Alien@pseudonymjones
When I read these people's work (and others), I always feel hyped to make comics. I want to be a part of this awesome community and that's super motivating to me. It's inspiring to see how artists approach comic making in different ways and it makes me feel like I can do it too!
There's a saying in the comics community, 'you should only make comics using about 60% of your actual skill.' The reason for this is that comics are HARD to make and take a LONG time and if you're giving 100% all the time, you'll burn out fast. I think the same is true for life.
So just like we now know to guard our 'yes', also it's a good idea to guard your 'best'. Save your energy for what matters. I can't help but think of how many employers want their employees to give 110%!!!!! while only paying them minimum wage. It's bullshit lol
I'm so tired of women in comics having to fight tooth and nail for scraps, only for the men in charge to pull the rug out from under us time and time again. 'You made too much of a fuss, now no-one can have anything!!!'
I'm also tired of women and other marginalised folks being the ones to lift each other up, recommend each other for opportunities and try and create spaces where we are heard, only to Still be denied access and passed over for white men. I want so much better for all of us.
It's just SO frustrating when we're literally out here like 'hey please include women on this panel about how to write female characters' and the organisers rage quit and the male panellists who took up our space are SILENT. They're not our allies.
It's SO tempting for me to put stuff off because I think I'll be able to face it later, but most of the time I'm wrong and I just end up in a horrible cycle until whatever the thing is becomes urgent in some way... When I find myself in this situation I try to tune into myself
I ask myself a series of questions:
What do I need to do?
Why am I not doing it?
Why do I feel like I can't do it?
What would I need right now to be able to feel like I can face it?
If I put this off, what will make me want to do it later that isn't a factor right now?